To think the DH just wants me for sex

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DH and I have been together for 5 years. His communication skills have never been great but over the last year or so they've become.. well.. shit! He will quite happily entertain himself but never seems to want to do anything with me.

If I sit down next to him in the evening and start to chat to him he falls asleep! Which I think is so bloody rude! The only thing he ever suggests doing with me is having sex!

It's making me totally paranoid and really annoyed/lonely. I can hold great conversations and do activities with other people and have even asked others if they think I'm boring because he's making me feel that way!

I know for sure he's not cheating. He just seems so wrapped up in himself all of the time. The only time he seems interested in me is when he's trying to get me to sleep with him, which is like all of the time! I don't want to have sex more than we do really, which is like 2-3 times a week. Why can't we do coupley things!!

@maras2 He used to tell me every now and then that he needed some quiet and alone time - which I always gave him. I did used to go to the gym for 2hrs, four nights a week. Back then he was slightly less of a sex pest lol.

I was married to someone like this who didn't even want sex either. We're now divorced. It made me feel very lonely and really eroded my self confidence.

I think it sounds like he's not making any effort at all but you have to let him know clearly that you expect and need more.

Spell it out.

"I want us to go out for dinner together"

"I want us to spend time talking and when you fall asleep I feel rejected"

But don't go shopping as a family on weekends for God's sake. That's not fun! One of you go...take it in turns!

Well,surely after five years, you should know your husband quite well. Has he always been like this ? if so, well only you will know what to do about all this, as in, do you wish to continue with this sex husband, and have nothing more in your life ? He does not sound like a woman's idea,of a nice cup of tea,so to speak.