The big lummox I'm married to never ceases to hurt/dissapoint me

[Radley]

I never had a big wedding etc, it was a lovely day, but, not as I had wanted.

Anyway, I decided to have a big bash next year on our 10th anniversary. To invite old friends and new etc.

I've been looking round, chosen invites, venue, balloons, colour scheme etc and I'm in process of ringing round caterers for prices etc.

I was talking to dh about ringing the caterers etc and what sort of flowers and he just turned round and said

"FLOWERS FFS were only in the Keys'

I said I wanted it to look nice and he turned round and said "Well in that case don't ask me anything because I'll moan about the cost"

I told him I was doing it this far in advance as I didn't want to leave it to last minute as caterers etc could get booked up and he shouted "FFS woman I could be dead in 6 months, I can't understand why you want to do it so far in advance"

Hence I turned round and told him to shove it and I won't bother.

I am so Fuffin angry at him.

Would a hug be an appropriate response here, or are you of the anti-hug persuasion?

Isn't this the stage at which you march around muttering

"If you think the flowers cost, you haven't seen the eternity ring....."

Why don't men get it?

All the fellow feeling in the world to you, Radley. Keep us posted

"FLOWERS FFS were only in the Keys'
Don't understand this?
Does he not want to have the ceremony or is he just being a bloke and not interested in the fancy bits?

LOL, I love huggles, but if my idiot husband were to hug me now, I'd knee him in the knackers.

Its not as though I was spending fortune. Food's going to be about 200.00, venue is free, balloons decorations etc about 100.00 inc helium and then about 100 on flowers, seems i'm not worth that. Even my eternity ring (which I chose myself) was less than 100.00 fgs.

NAB3, when he said that, he meant that why on earth am I wanting the room to look nice as were are only going into our local (the keys) not a fantastically glam venue, but, I know everyone and would feel comfy having it there.

Only interest he shows is in sport and making sure his t-shirt is ironed when he goes out.

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Ah ha! A missing ' explains everything!

Stop ironing his tshirts!!

Not the only thing i'll stop doing if her carries on being a twat

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((((((((Radley))))))))

No knee in the knackers for me please!

Tell him to wait til he sees how much the divorce will cost!

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what would be classed as the essential stuff?

I've not bought anything, just ringing round for prices and making sure I've a list of suppliers ready when I need to order the stuff.

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"Only interest he shows is in sport and making sure his t-shirt is ironed when he goes out"

Radley? What you doing with my husband?

IME men are only interested in the food and the drink departments of such events.

you could get the most expensive flowers in the world or no flowers and he wouldn't notice so I would save yourself stress if I were you

No, if you want gorgeous flowers, you have them. It's your do as much as his.

Sounds very familiar. Miserable git.

So what's actually bugging him. Is it the cost or the planning?

LOL, Peaches, aren't we blessed.

He's just not interested in 'fancy' stuff etc. Doesn't matter how I feel etc.

Ignore him.

Organise it.

Make him wear what you want him to wear.

Have the do.

Enjoy it.

DO NOT GO ON ABOUT IT COS MEN HATE THAT!!

Give him the bill at the end and tell him how much you love him.

Or if he is a real pain in the neck leave him!!

agree with cod, don't talk to him about it, just go ahead and book what you want. It sounds like he won't even notice anyway, but if it makes you happy then go for what you want. Can you get an enthusiastic friend/member of your family involved? That way you can save all your planning talk for him/her? I know it's unfair, but my dh was totally uninterested in most aspects of our wedding so I just went ahead and did what I wanted and chatted with my mum about it when I fancied a wedding chat.

After taking everything on board what has been said.

I am going ahead and sorting it anyway without asking him anything.

I've booked the caterers (lucky because she said that all saturdays for next june, july and august are booking up fast)

I've also chosen my invites etc so the ball is rolling.

oh god , why do women get so carried away talking about flowers and cakes and all that malarky?
no wonder the poor bloody bloke is getting peed off with the whole situation..
and to plan it all 6 months in advance?

girl, you need to shift your attentions elsewhere.

LOL Fairy Snuff.

I do have attentions elsewhere as it happens, but, I also happen to be extremely organised and don't like leaving things to the last minute then getting in a huff when I can't get the venue/caterers/flowers etc.

My dh would also loathe the planning bit. Loathe it.