I've got one of these

[kallilla]

I guarantee he will phone to say he's having a nightmare shopping. He'll only be at the local village store getting a couple of things, but has to phone to check on what he's supposed to get, and he brings home one small baguette fit 4 people, 2 lots of everything even though the lust said one! And he wonders why I get fed up !

Link to a story in today's DM which prompt my thread.

Man can't do food shop without girlfriend sending snaps of the items
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Leave him. Seriously.

Pathetic man children as a breed needs to die out and that will only happen when people stop enabling their pathetic manchild behaviour.

You can glibly say leave him.

It ain't that simple.

Is he a normally functioning adult?

Don’t answer the phone when he calls and just send him back to buy the correct stuff. He’ll be trained quite quickly then.

Agree with ILiveInSalemsLot. Just send him back to get the actual food you need. Don't tolerate learned helplessness, its a relationship killer, honestly.

He's either an idiot or sees it as beneath him. DH is more than capable of food shopping, he does add extras (usually cream cakes and giant bags of kettle chips) but who couldn't go to the shop without photos. I usually do the grocery shopping as I really like to cook so it's easier for me to do the shop (online anyway so no hassle) , eg I add the ingredients to do a particular meal then realise they don't have a small but necessary ingredient, remove items and rethink dinner plans. DH wouldn't necessarily know which items were for which meals from the fridge list, so we'd end up with 90% of the ingredients for a meal, but when I worked away he could easily shop if he was cooking and re-plan accordingly, although he tends to cook very simply so it's easier to adjust. I did get a call once about which type of miso, which also confused the person he found in the shop to ask, but that's reasonable.

It's not glib to say that you need to find an adult male that is fully functioning before deciding to have a relationship with him.

If more women left ridiculous twats like this then they would have to up their game across the board.

When I was little I used to give the shopkeeper a list of things I wanted. He/she would pack up a bag and give it to me and I'd take it home.

I'd be tempted to do the same with him.

Honestly one of my bugbears is men who can't seem to 'adult'.

No patience whatsoever with that shit.

Bloody hell, that's not cute. I'd be ashamed if my boys couldn't go to the shop without me having to send photos. I have 5 and, apart from my 17 yo who has SEN and can't go out on his own, they can all be sent to the shop and won't need to get in touch with me. And they all usually buy the right things (we all make mistakes, forget the one thing we went for etc)

And you find this man attractive? Attractive enough to procreate with?

Of course he can help it. He just wants you to take over all of his thinking for him.

I bet he can hold down a job.....if you can do this you are capable of shopping.

I suspect it's more that he doesn't want to/feels it's beneath him.

Let me just say it's a link to a story - not my story - you lot are hard taskmasters

Let me just say it's a link to a story - not my story - you lot are hard taskmasters

Huh? Expecting a man to be able to go and buy a selection of useful food is being a hard taskmaster?

Do you think he would starve if you weren't there to pander to him? Of course he wouldn't.

May not be your story OP, but you happily informed us you have one the same.

If you wish to live your life playing mummy to a grown up child, you crack on, some of us expect adults to be adults.

Bloody hell, he is just a plonker. Don't leave him. Can't believe the responses on here sometimes

Pathetic.

@sackrifice

Reading your unkind comment makes me wonder if there are any kind people on Mumsnet.

How do you know if they've been together a long time, have family etc.

I suppose you throw away men like your throw away comment?

@kallilla

I feel your pain, shopping doesn't come so easy to some people does it - trouble is too much choice on the shelves these days.

Reading your unkind comment makes me wonder if there are any kind people on Mumsnet

Unkind?

Get a grip.

shopping doesn't come so easy to some people does it - trouble is too much choice on the shelves these days

And yet millions of women and men manage it every single day... Most of them without photos or phone calls or being led by the cock through simple tasks.

There is another thread running similar to this one. As I said on the other if they are real how the hell do these men get partners? Are women's standards so low or do they secretly love the mummying?

It is one or the other.

He doesn’t wonder why you get fed up. He hopes you’ll get so fed up you’ll do it yourself and stop bothering him with the inconvenience of it.
He’s able...he’s just not willing.