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Somerestwouldbenice · 20/07/2019 08:41

Me and partner have been together over a year...we introduced our DC at Christmas time. I am pregnant and we have recently moved in. My DC is five his is 10.

The first time I met his DC there were things that were said that I thought was quite strange very focused on male and female relationships. He talks baby talk a lot but then will come off with things very advanced e.g. he told my mum that the ‘floss dance’ was sex moves.

We are on a family holiday with my family and I was told by an older nephew (15) yday that the ten year old is asking the boys their penis size. I spoke to my DP and he said he will speak
To ex and the boy but when he did all said to the boy was ‘I hear this has been said by someone you better not be saying it’.

I told him he should be asking WHY he is saying is. I always said that he and the ex need to parent together and stop blaming each other for all the issues. I am
Concerned that my five year old will hear things that are not appropriate am I wrong? How do we handle this?

He also had another toilet accident yesterday. And just took the soiled clothes off and changed into new ones without even cleaning himself. I was mortified and a little angry cleaning shit off the floor on my holiday. Any tips????

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PennyGold · 20/07/2019 11:00

Someone needs to speak to this child to ensure he's safe.
I work with children and I would be inclined to question further to ensure he isn't being sexually abused as he's showing two signs (I've pasted the emotional and behavioural signs from the NSPCC website).
In my experience the majority of the time everything is okay and they've maybe picked up the language from peers at school. However you have to check to ensure the child is safe.

	Avoiding being alone with or frightened of people or a person they know.
	Language or sexual behaviour you wouldn't expect them to know.
	Having nightmares or bed-wetting.
	Alcohol or drug misuse.
	Self-harm.
	Changes in eating habits or developing an eating problem.
Somerestwouldbenice · 20/07/2019 17:25

This is my concern there has been a few too many IMO sexualised comments made by him and they are not acknowledged. Now DP is saying I’m not being a co parent

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