Moving to a better area doesnt give you a better primary school.

[UpsetMum234]

Absolutely gutted. It was my childs last day today in primary school y6. He has hated his time there only joined last year after moving to the local area and alot of the kids there are AWFUL. They use the most derogatory swear words and homophobic language. He has come out today with nasty things written up his arm and they scribbled all over his t shirt instead of writing on it. Some horrible things written on his shirt such as turd, loser as well as his arms and face. He said they only did it to him. I couldnt see any other kids like this. I dont know how staff didnt notice him walking around like this and I am really angry. This would never have happened in his old school which was actually in a not so good area. His old school was amazing any bullies which there werent many of were disciplined if they hurt or did anything horrible. The connection between the teachers and the children was so strong, in this school there are few nice teachers and such a disconnect with the kids and staff.
I feel so bad for him that he walked around like that and so angry with the kids and teachers. I wish I never sent him to that school 😔

Hopefully it’s all washed off, shirt in the bin and you’re doing something nice to celebrate it all being over. It sounds awful, don’t let it spoil your summer, hug him and tell him how proud you are of him. Rise above, they’ll stay how they are.

I know you are right @Herocomplex I just felt so upset I have bought him some stuff to cheer him up, wish the pen would come off his arms though, So glad he will never have to go back there again!

Glad to hear you’re spoiling him a bit. The pen will wear off, or let him add some positive words over the top! Have a short chat about how wrong they were, then take your mind off it if you can, if he sees you feeling down it might make him feel worse.

That's awful...I'm really sorry this happened!
At least he will be attending high school so won't have to see much of these kids again. The parents of the kids who did this sadly will never know the DC did these nasty deeds. That's a shame, I wonder how they would feel if it happened to their offspring. I guess now school has finished it won't be sorted out. I'm guessing the teachers didn't notice, I can't believe any teacher would ignore behaviour like this if they knew.
Your poor son, I'd tell him to avoid the culprits if he comes across them at high school. Hopefully he will meet some decent kids there and be much happier. It doesn't matter which school you pick, theirs always horrid little bullies, it's how they're dealt with that counts. Good luck. X

Little fuckers. Hope he’s ok x

Ah poor lad. Do you have any hand sanitiser or alcohol swabs? Takes a lot of pen marks off skin quickly and easily.

So sad for him. At least he's finished now.

That's awful OP do rant away on here, you sound like you need somewhere to let off a bit of stream so you can be calm and rise above irl.

It is very difficult to fit into a school joining in the final school year.
This happened to my son too.

That’s awful poor child.
I know he’s finished now but o would make a complaint to the school and ofsted So other children are protected

Personally, I’d write to the school to complain and take photoshop of the top and nasty words on his skin. I know he’s left now but I think you need to highlight this as an issue and a massive failing on behalf of the teachers.

You’d notice if “loser” and lots of other insults were written on a child’s back. Because it was the last day they probably didn’t bother to investigate.

*photos 🙄

Thanks for all the replies. I did think they would notice especially turd as it was on his collar of his normal shirt clearly visable. (He wore the one that was supposed to be signed over the top) One bully had pinned his arm down and written "ya mum" and loser on his arm.
The school is just shocking at dealing with things its like they cant be bothered.
Hes a good kid doesnt ever want to get in trouble, doesnt fight back I feel he has lost so much confidence, I am going to get him some self defence classes to learn confidence again. Its not how I wanted him to remember his primary days its upsetting.

"That's awful OP do rant away on here, you sound like you need somewhere to let off a bit of stream so you can be calm and rise above irl."

Thats exactly what I am trying to do @KennDodd I was so angry earlier I nearly wrote it on the town facebook page Its a very small countryside town. With a great reputation. But the school is by far the worst I have ever known.
I just felt so angry that these kids do this and there are no repercussions after how they make people feel. Its horrible.

You have my sympathies. One little shit at my son's school wrote "f*k u" on my autistic son's jumper. If I could have found out who it was I would seriously have been arrested.

The staff wont be looking at the kids shirts so unless anyone drew attention to it it could easily be missed. Sorry that happened to him and hopefully his secondary experience will be a lot better.

My eldest came out of school with a nasty message on his leavers shirt too. He doesn’t know who wrote it, and younger kids were signing shirts as well as the Year 6s so one of the first things I plan to do in September when my younger child goes back there is to ask the school to ensure that next year all children are spoken to about not writing inappropriate messages on people’s shirts! I hope your boy has a lovely summer and enjoys his new school once he starts.

Its horrible isnt it @ImFreeToDoWhatIWant.
The thing is you would have thought that they would tell the children that only a message and a name is able to be written.
I distinctly remember from my primary school days (all be it a while back now) the deputy head very strictly explaining only messages and names and no scribbling and that they wouldnt be able to join in if they were found doing this.
Its about anticipating what could happen because its a given every year you are going to get some horrible kids ruining it for others. So explaining to them whats expected and the consequences before they start would be helpful as its pretty horrible for a kid walking round with bullies insults over them.

Redhelen I think the fact he was the only child covered in pen on his arms and even drawing black lines down his face I think you would have to be pretty ignorant not to notice. His whole tshirt was scribbled it looked awful the few nice messages on there you could barely see as it was just a heap of scribble. Turd stood out pretty well too.

Don't think it is to do with good area or bad area. It is about fitting in. If a kid doednt fit in at whichever school, they will get bullied.

Oh poor lad! That's very sad.
Onwards and upwards to him xx

The completely awful. You have every right to be upset

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Don’t worry OP your lad will bounce back. This happened to my son two years ago. I was devastated his classmates could be so cruel. Like you the school is in a nice area and is very highly thought off. Over subscribed but has some of the worst behaved children I have ever come across. With staff who are obviously at the end of their rope.
My boy got the last laugh he got in to an excellent school and has made lots of new friends who treat him with respect that he deserves.
Don’t let the bullies win he has everything to gain moving on now. My sons bullies have all ended up expelled or suspended from their secondary schools they went on too.
Believe me your son will use this experience and grow in to a well clued up young man.

So sorry your DS has been through this. Hopefully he will now be free of the bullies. Excellent idea re the self defence classes and hopefully he’ll make some nice friends there.

I have to agree with you about schools/areas. We have a secondary school near us, one of the top ones in the country. Great exam results, catchment full of million pound houses, pupils always on social media with people moaning about their behaviour, teachers making comments about SEN kids.

Our nearest primary guarantees a place in this secondary school, people are desperate to get in.

I have sent my ds elsewhere. He might note get the qualifications he would have done through the other school, but his classmates are lovely and support, kind and compassionate.

The nice area normally means high achieving parents, some of whom put their career before parenting, ime drugs also tend to be an issue in these types of schools - kids with too much money and too little guidance.