Not really a friend, more an acquaintance who volunteers with the same organisation as I do but otherwise we have nothing in common at all. She seems to be quite lonely and needy.
My MIL died last weekend, 200 miles from where me and DH live. We rely on public transport so when we heard she was ill (last Friday afternoon) he went straight down by train. She died on Saturday and he said he was going to stay until the necessary things were done as the return fare is £120 and we can't afford that without thinking hard about it! So as not to drip feed, I have a mobility issue due to chronic illness and it's been quite bad recently.
I feel really childish for this bit but yesterday was my birthday and I was missing him - what I really wanted to was throw a major tantrum and scream 'It's not faaaaiiirrr!'. On Wednesday evening my 'friend' had messaged me on FB and asked if she could come and keep me company during the afternoon of my birthday. (Please note - she asked, not me!) Although there were other things I could have been doing, I agreed.
So yesterday I waited in, on a glorious day when I'd been invited to meet a group of friends for lunch and a drive, or go to a neighbour's first solo exhibition during the evening because I know how upset she gets when people cancel plans with her. And I waited and waited. Then at 9 last night she posted photos of her on a boat trip with her husband during the afternoon and early evening.
She sent me a text this morning saying she was sorry not to have arrived 'but he wanted us to go out in his friend's new boat'. I replied that I'd realised she'd found something more pressing than keeping her arrangement with me when I saw the photos. Apparently it was someone else who posted the photos so I'm unreasonable for being pissed off with her.
AIBU to think if you're going to cancel plans you let the other person know? And that it doesn't matter who posted the photos, finding out that way was shitty and insulting?