Emotional 7 year old

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DD always been quite a hardy little thing, teachers and friends always compliment her on her determination and resilience bit lately bursts into tears at the drop of a hat. Like every day, sometimes 2 or 3 times in a day. Always been a good girl so although l discipline her when necessary, in general l don't have much need to really scold her so if1 l do she finds it upsetting. Lately though the smallest thing tips her over the edge and starts her off crying. She is upset now because we were talking about the school disco and she said if she had to pay for her own ticket she wouldn't go as she doesn't want to spend her money. I casually said it is a shame to miss out on things (not just the disco btw) because of money if you can afford it as you will have fun. Been crying 15 mins and in a sulk now. Aibu in letting her get on with it and not pandering to the tears? Hoping it is end of term exhaustion and nothing more!🤞

If it was just a one off crying session (like over the disco), I'd maybe leave her to it until she calmed down enough to talk to her. You know your kid; if you suspect she's sulking then (I would) let her get on with it.

However, you said she's been out of sorts for a whil e. It could be being worn out from school and needing a break, but either way I would have a chat and see if there's anything ekse going on.

You know her best. Depends on how out of character it is.

Primary school teacher here:

It's that time of year where kids are really tired, over-emotional, and not themselves. It'll pass once she's had a rest.
Regarding the disco, has she always paid for herself? Or have you paid previously? If you've always paid before, it seems a bit rough to suddenly drop it on her that, FYI, you're paying this time kid. Especially as you know she's over-emotional at the moment and a bit sensitive.

But if she's always paid for herself, and it's never been a drama, then let her sulk a bit. Like she kind of said herself, she can choose how she spends her money. But maybe you could smooth the waters a bit? Eg: "If you pay for the ticket, I'll give you a few quid for sweeties."

Sounds like something is making her anxious. Like @coffeebean said, it could be just end of the school year type of thing, but I'd gently probe her with a few inconspicuous questions every now and then, just to make sure something isn't hiding behind all that.

I think it's harsh to make a seven year old pay for their school disco ticket!

Apart from that, it's the end of term, they're all shattered.

Sorry no she isn't paying for it, l am, as always, but no cash on me so asked her to lend me the money and l will pay her back later - no confusion as to who is paying for it - she just said if she did have to pay then she wouldn't go which sparked the conversation. She had a fantastic week last week with her sats results, school reports and sports day etc so maybe she is on a comedown! Has calmed down now but feel like l am walking on eggshells!!

Why would you make her pay for her own ticket?!

I think it may also be an age thing. My DD has just finished year 2 and half the girls seem to be having random crying fits.

Ignore me Haha! You made it sound like she was paying herself x

She's not paying for her own ticket!!!

Sorry my fault - l she was just saying hypothetically x

Reasons my 7 year old cried yesterday:

I said she could continue drawing her picture while she ate her tea. (Big treat, we are usually an all eat at the table together family)

Her custard cream wasn't as expected.
Her brother was sitting in the middle of the sofa.
Her t-shirt was too green.
And twice for no reason she could think of.

I am desperately hoping that there is some sort of hormone surge at this age that might be responsible!

We are on holiday now but the end of term tiredness made it even worse.

Sounds like tiredness or maybe coming down with something.

My 7 year old is all over the place emotionally on a permanent basis. He can't seem to feel anything at a normal level. He's either fantastically happy, incredibly sad or hitting the roof in anger. It's wearing.

Your DD just sounds like last week was a bit much for her.