To think that nrp who constantly lie to avoid paying any maintenance to their dc should be fined?

[Eustasiavye]

I am so fed up of this entire situation.
What human being, who was married to someone for over 20 years, who made their vows in a church and then broke them, then abandoned their dc causing serious long term harm does this.
The facts are:
He had an affair.
Left to go and live within walking distance with the ow and her dcs who were at the same school.
Small village, they were not discrete so everybody knew. Very embarrassing for my dcs.
Would not commit to having the dcs, ever.
Packed his job in to stop paying child maintenance.
Was taken to court over it, ordered to pay (now works). Paid sporadically.
Arrears to be taken directly from his salary.
Has told the only dc who will speak to him that he is going to pack in his job again soley to avoid paying.
Has informed the cms on three separate occasions that dc3 is not at college and that I am lying.
After having to prove 3 times that dc is at college, I came home from work yesterday to find YET ANOTHER LETTER telling me he claims dc3 is not at said college and I have 7 days to prove he is!!!!!
I personally believe telling all these bloody lies such inflict a fine and a prison sentence if he doesn't pay and continues lying.

The last time I reported him for non payment he responded by sending dc3 a vile text telling her all about the time I was raped .

He is a cunt.
Why is this legal.
And now he is no longer paying any maintenance.
Sorry , I needed to rant.

YANBU at all. Absolute fucking cunt. And his OW must have shockingly low self esteem for choosing to wake up next to him every morning.

YANBU. I wrote to Maria Miller when she was minister responsible and got a bullshit pr-speak answer from a civil servant. It is nuts that people can get away with this and galling for all the decent parents who do pay their way.

Btw the CSA (CMS) was another of Thatcher’s marvellous “improvements” to the UK. Bastard.

I know it hurts....I'm sort of in a similar situation but only with the fact my ex-wife doesnt pay any maintenance & packed her job in & wont tell me where she will be living as from next month.

I know its hard but I'd let it go. Just not worth it. Dont engage with him & assume you wont get any money from him at all. A peaceful & uneventful life must surely be better than the shit you're going through.

Thank you for all your posts.
Just to add. I do not engage with him directly, ever. The last time we ever spoke I had to hang up due to the batshit ow screaming down the phone in the background. She has said on numerous occasions that my ex h cannot come to my house, ever, to see our dcs.
The last time dc1 spoke to her dad he was trying to arrange contact. Ow came on the phone and screamed at my dd that she was a bitch and why didn't she just go and kill herself.

Make no mistake I do not want him or her in my life and the police have told ex h and ow that they must never contact dd1 ever again.

A decent person would just pay x amount towards the upkeep of their child.
Not one of my dcs has a relationship with their father and this is heartbreaking.
Every little thing is such an issue.

The text detailing my rape was disgusting, I was a child at the time and I had confided in my ex h about it.
My dc3 has not spoken to her father since. Imagine telling a child that their mother was raped as a young child, what a sick fuck.
Dc3 did not even tell me, she is unable to speak about it, dd1 told me after breaking down.

On top of all this, I cannot get through to the cms 😠, yet again I have to come home from work and waste my time dealing with this bollocks.
Why don't they tell him if he tells lies again they will issue a £50 fine?

It’s wrong. Farr too many of both RP and NRP fail to financially support children themselves. We need harsher penalties and the money the state pays should be a loan that has to be paid back with interest. It wouldn’t be an attractive option then to not support a child.