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Looming divorce and housing for me and children heads gone

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ivegotthisyeah · 18/07/2019 21:24

Coming in here to see what you lovely people would do in my situation as I feel so tired of it all stressed out and sick of it occupying my head space!
Back story in the process of divorce due to his not be able to keep his dick in his pants. I'm left in the family home with three children all under ten. I work part time small salary due to youngest not being at school me doing all childcare and school runs. He earns 5 times what I do.
He wants a mersher order on the house till youngest leave school then he walks away with 40% of equity and me 60% and will continue to pay half the mortgage. I don't want this as this means I can never move anyone in or do anything to the house without his approval 😂 then he will stop paying usual stuff. My problem is I can't afford to take on the remaining mortgage and can only get a small mortgage on my wages so if I sold and got a mortgage I would need all of the equity in this house to proceed to downsize and have a smaller house but still near kids school. He has three other rental properties not solely in his name in with another party. There is no way he will agree to this ( me having all the equity) so I feel like I am stuck in a hard place. I am willing to downsize but still need all the equity to do this!! It's not worth the money and I don't have the money to go to court but I feel like I'm absolutely up shit creak with him calling all the shots. Anyone have any advice? I have a solicitor x

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haveuheard · 18/07/2019 21:34

If he is highly paid does he have a big pension pot that you can give up claim on in return for more of the house?

ivegotthisyeah · 18/07/2019 21:40

@haveuheard only just started paying into a pension last year when he got a hefty pay rise ( funny that ) so small at the mo but will be big well a lot bigger than mine Envy

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crimsonlake · 18/07/2019 21:43

Personally I would go to court and let the Judge decide what is fair. You can self represent, this is what I ended up doing.
If he earns 5x more than you I would personally go for Periodical payments ( spousal maintenance ) as well as Court Ordered child maintenance. If there is sufficient money coming in you could then pay the mortgage hopefully. If the mortgage company agrees his name could also remain on the mortgage, but get the deeds transferred in to your name only.
Do not agree to anything without legal advise. I also suggest posting this on Wikivorce the government funded divorce website where you will get great support.

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