to be annoyed with my husband

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I love my husband to pieces, he’s my best friend and we have an excellent marriage.

It’s just us at home and we have a deal whereby hubs does all the cooking and I do the cleaning and clothes washing. I hate cooking, he hates cleaning so it works for us.

However my husband is so messy. He doesn’t understand the concept of putting things back where they belong and it drives me up the wall! For example, he emptied his car at the weekend as was taking a load of rubbish to the dump. Everything from his boot was chucked on the dining room table. He hasn’t put it back in his car and it’s been sitting there all week. He regularly leaves his used tooth picks lying around in the living room instead of putting them in the bin. The garden shears he was using the other afternoon now have a new home on the kitchen worktop instead of in the garage! Empty toilet rolls just get left sitting in the bathroom. He had an ice cream after dinner and the wrapper is on the coffee table despite the fact he’s now gone upstairs for his bath.

I know cleaning is part of my contribution to the house but I feel he is capable of doing basic things like tidying up the mess he makes. But AIBU to complain when cleaning is my job?

You have a toddler for a husband!

YANBU.
Mine is exactly the same. He does all the cooking and does the garden, I do everything else. He can't pick up after himself. Most of his clothes are down the side of the bed because I refuse to put them away now and he just moved them to get in.

I'd kill him with his nasty toothpicks.

Your job isn’t to pick up after a lazy oik.

Collect all his shit and put it in a black bin liner for him to sort out. Don’t tidy it away for him. He’s being a lazy sod and unfair to boot.

YANBU
Rooms need to be tidy before they can be cleaned. Keeping somewhere tidy is not the same as cleaning it. Your husband should be picking things up and tidying up after himself.

Gather it all together and dump it on the cooker.

Are we all married to the same man? Lol. He cooks, I tidy and do the laundry, and we pay, at my insistence, for a cleaner fortnightly.

I put all his 'very important, but not important enough to put somewhere safe' stuff in a pile where I can't see it. Eventually I bin bits if I get frustrated, but usually just ignore it. He's a builder so those odd screws and bits of dirt are obviously vitally important! Lol. When he eventually needs one of the 'important' things he has to sort the pile out to find it. Having cleaner come in seems to embarrass him in sorting things out too.

I dump all the random crap that is left around into a box and leave it by his bed or chair.

Cups and glasses from by the bed I will leave in a row on the side though.

Oooh, just saw dumping in cooker idea! Defo doing that next time it gets too much

OP- who does the cleaning after cooking and the washing up? Who foodshops?

Hardly surprising he doesn't like cleaning if that's the chaos he leaves in his wake.

Swipe all the shit off the table into an IKEA bag if you have one . Easier to hold open then a bin bag and out it back in his boot .

He’s being very lazy and disrespectful. Put the shears, the toothpicks and the wrapper on top of the shit in the bag and then the whole lot goes in his car . Do it every time ! He’ll get the message !

I want to know how my DP gets to spread his crap all over all of your houses as well as this one ...

YANBU and you're not alone! My DH leaves his pants on the floor so I pick them up and put them somewhere he'll find them later,and hopefully in the company of other peoe, eg suit jacket pocket, briefcase, protein powder tub. The possibilities are endless.

Bag it all up and leave it somewhere in his way.

I'd incinerate everything he dropped.