AIBU worrying that my baby can’t sit up?

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Just basically after some reassurance !

My little one can’t sit up, she isn’t even at the stage where she’ll open her legs and support her weight by putting her hands infront and leaning forward
If you pick her up and put her feet on the floor she won’t/ can’t straighten her legs
She won’t bare any weight
Even if I try get her in a sitting position she will cry- it’s like she’s hurting. Maybe more of a wimper/ moan- but definitely not happy

She’s almost 9 months
When she was 6 month I mentioned to health visitor. They said they’d check at her 8 month check
This hasn’t been booked in till she’s 11 months
Last week I was worried so took her GP. She listened and referred her to the hospital. They’ve called me tonight and offered me an appointment for when she’s 14 months ?!

AIBU? Do I push this?
I’m well aware I’m comparing her to my first and other babies. But something just doesn’t seem right. She’s so strong she can almost crawl and get absolutely everywhere rolling and dragging herself- so it isn’t a question of strength. Just unsure if I’m nagging people and what to do

I’d push it. That’s late to sit up and leaving it for 5 months seems crazy.

Hi op. What else is she able to do? Can she roll? Does she like being on her tummy?

I wonder if she has a problem with her hips - was she breech by any chance?

My 9.5 month old sat up yesterday for the first time but hadn’t shown signs until a day or two before. I went to a baby group yesterday and the three other 9 month olds were exactly the same as him. It doesn’t sound like you have anything to worry about.
My daughter was standing and stepping at this age so he feels very slow, but I think she was the anomaly.

Yes she can roll! Doesn’t stop. She’s strong and can kick her legs for England- I was also worried about her hips, when trying to get her to bare weight on her feet she is never straight, her legs are always very far in front, bum pushed back and won’t put weight down.
Wasn’t breach and born by csection !

@QuickRedFox that’s reassuring thankyou!
I just feel awful incase I’m missing something x

Is she big? Mine is 96th percentile so it’s a lot of weight and height to get off the ground.

My DS could crawl before he could sit up, which was ridiculous! He rolled at 4 months crawled at 6 but it was 10 months before he could sit up without face planting!
He could open his legs and lean forward though in a sitting type position he just had to support himself.

Could it be her hips potentially? I would book in for the GP and raise your concerns, hips can be fixed really easily when they are little

If it helps put your mind to rest, my DS couldn't sit up at that age. It wasn't until he was around 11 months that he could really sit up on his own. He crawled and moved around a lot and he seemed to have bypassed it. I was worried about it, but he didn't seem to care and the doctor wasn't too concerned. He just did it in his own time. He is very small, always has been (3rd percentile), so maybe that had something to do with it.

My DC1 didn't sit until 12.5 months old. Didn't cruise the furniture or walk when holding hands either. Up until 10 months he was perfectly content with rolling everywhere (can't remember when that started) as he could get everywhere he wanted. He then started crawling (only ever commando style) and was even happier as he could get around more directly and quicker.

He was referred to the paediatric team at 11 months because he couldn't sit but they assessed him to be physically fine.

He walked at 15 months. He went from first steps to walking everywhere to running all within 3 days!

He did what he wanted in his own time when he saw the need to do so!

He's now almost 12. Still very much the same in only doing something when he sees the point and mastering it almost instantly.

DC2 was/is the total opposite!

My DS sat for the first time at almost 5 months. He's never really rolled although he can. He still only bum shuffles at 17 months. 9 months is still normal although I think after that it's less common

If that makes you feel better, my son has only been sitting last month (he is 9 months old).

I think it's a bit early for you to be worried ; when she sits up it could happen very quickly, within a few days.

What about the following :

• is she curious and active ?
• does she try to talk ? Does she respond when you talk to her ?
• how are her motor skills besides this ? Can she hold toys and bring stuff to her mouth ?
• does she ever seem in pain or bothered by her legs/hips ?

If the answers are yes, yes, yes and no, then you probably don't need to worry and she'll get there in time.

That said, you could still bring her to a specialist if you find one, just for your own peace of mind.

But if the hospital doesn't sound worried I'd also find that reassuring ?

I think you're slightly early to worry, they all reach these physical milestones at very different ages. It's good that you have the referrals in case they're needed, but try not to worry for now unless you believe she's in actual pain.

Do your health visitors go regularly to the local children's centre for weighing? If you can them up you should be able to make an appointment for a chat, or turn up for the weighing and just ask questions then about what they think of her sitting. Our local hospital has set up an online thing now where you can change your appointment time; then if anybody cancels you can snap up an earlier appointment. Honestly I'd try and leave it a few more months, but worth looking if you want to bring it forward a month or two.

Thanks so much everyone I feel abit better now ! Definitely helped me by thinking about the positives, she’s so interactive she has excellent co-ordination , threw herself into BLW ( so much she refuses to be spoon fed ) and can get where she wants to be rolling

I’ll keep my eye on her

Dc was like this so i took them to a chiropractor. Did them the world of good as it turned out they had tight hips

I had this with my son
I kept saying there was something wrong (no4 child) and I kept being told I was an idiot and his hips where fine
It took me going to the doctor and refusing to move until someone listened-I was sat in the waiting room for 6 hours 45 minutes in the end
His hips where fine-it was the joints in his knees that where the problem-sitting up was hurting him because of it so he didn’t do it
He finally sat up at a year and walked at 2 and a half-potty trained 3 months later and didn’t look back
Still bloody angry that nobody listened to me-he’s now 15
I’d push to get him seen cos this isn’t normal

My dd was exactly the same , wouldn't bear weight, wouldn't put her feet on the floor, didn't cruise, couldn't sit up confidently till 11 months, I remember she started nursery then and we had to put cushions around as she used to topple over! Didn't walk till 18 months. Did a real weird one sided crawl and even that was after 1!
I was really worried, obviously!
Everyone commented on it, she was referred to paeds they were concerned but wanted to give it a bit off time. I got a few sessions of physio too although I'm not sure that did much. Nursery also mentioned it around 16 months that we may need outside help.

She did walk at 18 months everything sorted its self out and now she's 3 and I wish she'd sit down for 5 minutes!

Good luck, I'm sure all is fine but do go with your instincts and push for additional help sooner rather than later

Also mine was born cs and could roll at 4 months.

Slightly different but neither of my children rolled. As long as she is hitting other milestones I wouldn’t worry

Mine was about 9mo before he sat up. He started crawling not long after. It was more like 14m before he attempted to walk. I wouldn’t worry at this stage.

My lo couldn’t roll until he was 17months, never learned to crawl (bum shuffler) and only walked at 16months. I wouldn’t worry they all do things when they are ready

Neither of mine sat up till after 9 months. Both crawled late and walked even later, 15 and 16 months. Now both very agile and naturally sporty. Doing things reasonable late is actually very good as it builds strength slowly and doesn’t put unnecessary pressure on the body/ joints to soon.
Babies that crawl for a while and don’t walk have good upper body strength and better handwriting.

My DS couldn't sit up until he learned to crawl at just after 8 months. If I put him in the sitting position he would just flop onto his side. As soon as he crawled, he could get himself into the sitting position and has sat up (but not still) ever since!

I think he was just never interested in sitting he was much more focused on trying to move, he was walking confidently a week after his 1st birthday! His friends who sat much earlier than him were much later at crawling and walking x

My little one could sit, but not steadily, at 10 months, left unattended she would just collapse over. Barely rolled until that time. Couldn’t pull herself up until about 13 months, didn’t walk until 19 months.
Dairy allergy undiagnosed until 9 months was keeping her off her tummy (as it was sore), and I asked for a clicky shoulder to be checked out which led to a diagnosis of hyper mobility and some physio to help her along. Maybe worth seeing if GP or HV can refer you to paediatrician?
(She’s now 4 and you would never know she had been later at anything....)