To decline my neighbours parcels

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I work from home at least twice a week. I do not order a great deal online but am finding that I am constantly interrupted by knocks at the door. My dog starts barking too. I get to the door and find that it's once again a parcel for one particular next door neighbour. Bulking products! The parcel then sits in my hallway unless I go round with it - sometimes a week can pass. They never come for their parcel. I tried refusing a couple of parcels but the delivery man got quite aggressive. I'm getting cheesed off with it. AIBU to tell the neighbour- no more?

I had to stop taking my neighbour's parcels in as she did just this. My hall was clogged.

I just say to the Amazon man or whatever I'm sorry, she never collects them so I can't take it in.

Works a treat and after a few weeks of this she heard me saying it (she often just couldn't be bothered to come to the door!) and now has changed her delivery preferences.

I wished I'd been stronger about it years ago!

I don’t accept stuff for next door. If they get shitty I just say I’m not home for a few days which won’t be convenient for the neighbors

• Why is it on Mumsnet people are so keen on running to teacher instead of dealing with another adult themselves? The place is obsessed with "reporting" people!

WTF? OF COURSE you have to report aggressive workers to their employers! (if they're aggressive whilst performing their duties)
It's not sodding telling tales and running to teacher, it's reporting bad workers and no employer wants aggressive employees representing them.

OP, get a sign on your door saying "Deliveries for this address only" or if it's just the one annoying CF neighbour, have a sign saying "not accepting parcels for number XX" they're a couple of quid on eBay or if you have a laminator, pennies for you.

Tell the delivery driver that you are going away for a few days so you can’t take it. Every time they knock.

Put a sign on the door saying you are only taking parcels for your own address.

Make sure you’re not designated neighbour as sometimes they ask you to recommend a neighbour.

I'd be tempted to stick them in the shed or garage, keep them forever, and deny all knowledge if neighbour did come round for them!
Nah, get a sign, as pp said, and if delivery man gets aggressive, just point at the sign and close the door. He can't do anything to you, apart from maybe shout, so let him shout at the closed door.

No parcels accepted unless addressed to xxxxxxx No exceptions.

@mussolini9 because generally people stop acting like dicks when they realise their job could depend on it

Which doesn't negate the 1st point about being able to stand up for yourself & by that be less open to this type of bullying.

The parcel company will also be less motivated about the driver's attitude than you may imagine. Especially as parcel recipients (or their stand-ins) are not their customers. It's a low-margin, fast-moving business model that is more concerned with driver availability & retention volumes than perfect brand perception.

Some people find it difficult to stand up to someone who's being threatening, aggressive, or just loud or foul-mouthed. You have no way of knowing if the aggressive person is just a blowhard or if they're genuinely dangerous (or likely to do you a bad turn, if they have a chance). Some people are scary, and we don't all revel in every opportunity to confront them!

The best thing to do is stand up to them as much as you feel you can-- and then report them on top of that. Maybe the employer won't care, but then again, maybe they will, if enough people complain. It definitely doesn't hurt to try!

I never understand people like your neighbour- whenever I order anything online it’s either because I want it or need it.

Whichever the reason, I can’t wait to get it delivered and opened, so I don’t get why someone would go to the hassle of ordering and paying for goods and then leaving them in their neighbour’s hallway for a week or more?