To hate breastfeeding?

[Fedupatforty]

Just having a rant really. EBF DD till she was 15months. DS is 10 weeks now and am EBF. I hate it, hated it with DD too.
I hate how I always smell cheesy (oversupply with both) I hate how DH can’t do a share of it. I hate how DS squirms around and tugs my nipples (all normal according to lacatation consultant) I hate having to get my baps out in public. I hate that I have to wear nursing clothes. And now to top it all DS has started to teeth so it’s getting really uncomfortable.
Tried to give up with DD at 5 months as I’d had enough but she bottle refused and got really dehydrated so I had to continue.

I don’t have any problems with supply or establishing feeding etc which I know are a real source of worry for some people so am I BU and should I just be grateful that I can BF?

If you dont want to pump then I'd combo feed with dh giving a bottle in the evening

Why don’t you give up then?

YANBU i hated it, you lasted a lot longer than i did.

Thanks so much for all the supportive comments.

@ethelfleda and @ArtichokeAardvark suggesting I just stop: not that simple - as I mentioned in my original post I have experienced a bottle refuser: it was awful - I did just stop and she ended up really unwell with dehydration - I want to avoid that with DS who is also refusing any offered bottles.

Everyone else - you’ve encouraged me to give combo feeding/ pumping another go if it doesn’t happen again then it’s just nice to know I’m not the only one plodding grimly on....

Yanbu. Introduce a bottle now and be consistent with it so you don’t have the same reaction with ds.

Well done for carrying on when you don’t really like it.

I’ve had a few friends swear by a haakaa to help the pumping woes

The hakaa is brilliant. Cheap, hands free, easy to clean, you can use it when you’re feeding, just pop it on the one not in use. Saves time so you’re not having to feed then also pump. Put DH in charge of sterilising. I just have a big glass bowl, pour some Milton liquid in, lob the stuff in for 15 minutes.

Fedupatforty
Fair enough. I apologise for my curt response before. Sincerely hope it gets better for you, OP. Motherhood is hard

I hated it too, and everything improved massively for me when I stopped with DC1 at 6 months. I started enjoying motherhood finally. However about to do it all again with DC2 and hoping I can keep it up for as long again.

I understand OP. I breastfed my son for 22 months and mostly enjoyed it but at times I HATED it, especially once I got my period back at 10 months. Like you I tried with a bottle but he just wouldn’t have it, so I carried on until he naturally stopped. I’m pregnant with no2 now and already dreading the feeling of being “stuck” in the newborn stage. Have a look at the Minbie bottle, it’s expensive but they claim to be the most like an actual nipple to help with the transition. Good luck whatever you decide to do, do not feel guilty or bad for not loving it, you being happy as a mum and person is important too.

What worked for me was to start a breast feed for about 10minutes and then offer the bottle each and every time. It took a few foes but he was very quickly taking a bottle as easily as the breast.

Then I slowly dropped feeds u TIL it was only morning and evening/ nights as and when. Then we dropped those too.

I think losing even some of your feeds will help and ensuring that he will take a bottle gets you to that point. Don’t rush it and be consistent. Virtually every baby can learn to take a bottle.

Good luck, you absolutely do not need to continue if you are struggling so much. You have done your bit.

I felt the same OP. Didn't hate every single feed but overall I didn't enjoy it.

Also I gave both of mine a bottle every 2 - 3 days (occasionally once a week) and at 3 months exactly they both started completely refusing it