Bi sexual mum

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KC27XX · 18/07/2019 09:58

I have recently been having thoughts of women and feeling attracted to some of them. I think these feeling have been suppressed for years as I remember feeling like this when I was about 12 but I didn’t want to be a lesbian so I shut them feelings off. I’ve been with the father of my child for nearly 9 years and I do love him and find him attractive so I think I may be bisexual, however I’m not ready to tell him, any friends or family but it would be nice to talk to other mums that are feeling the same way I am if there is any?

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HiJenny35 · 18/07/2019 10:25

You feel the way you feel. Feeling attracted to someone doesn't mean you want/need to do anything about it. Do you want to remain with your husband? I'm attracted to several men (mainly on TV) doesn't mean I'd do anything about it, I'm 100% committed to my OH I don't really think it's that different that you are attracted to a woman, a fantasy is just a fantasy unless you're saying you want that to be something more.

joyfullittlehippo · 18/07/2019 15:16

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slippermaiden · 26/07/2019 23:01

Hi, I have been feeling the same as you. I had a massive crush on a friend and recently this has come back to me in a massive way. I haven't fancied any women except this one friend who I adore and would do anything for. I am happily married and definitely wouldn't cheat on my husband, I love him.

lookingatthings · 26/07/2019 23:22

I'm a bisexual mum. Well pansexual actually: I've been in relationships and had sexual encounters with the whole range. Then I met my DH. I chose to be with him. We have a DC. We have a monogamous commitment to each other. He is the person I choose to be with. I'm still pansexual, I still find my myself attracted to other people, but I choose to be with him. I feel I have explored my sexual identity and found the person that fits me the best.

I have an ex lover who is heterosexually married without DC. She became aware of her feelings for women, and finally admitted them to herself and her DH after about ten years of being together. They talked about it, extensively, and decided as a couple that she could explore her sexuality- whilst being happily married, she also dates other women. That works for them.
What would you like to do OP? That's the first question you need to ask.

VivienneHolt · 26/07/2019 23:41

I'm bisexual and happily married to a man.

It's ok to acknowledge that you're bisexual without worrying that it means you aren't happy or fulfilled in your relationship. Your sexual orientation is part of you and continues to exist regardless of your sex life or the relationships you have.

Lots of people don't understand bisexuality and will either tell you to keep it a secret because it 'doesn't matter' if you're married, or will assume that if you want to tell your husband it must mean there is something wrong with your relationship. Ignore all that noise and seek proper informed support from LGBT websites and forums.

Triskaidekaphilia · 27/07/2019 00:02

I am also bi/pan (depending if the person I'm talking to knows what pansexuality is!) But I was aware before I got with DH. If you're in a monogamous relationship that you expect to be permanent, it doesn't really make a great deal of difference to your life, so take your time with telling people.

StarlightLady · 27/07/2019 08:28

During our formative years we have it instalked in us that we are hetrosexual.

It was not until I was in my 30s (40s now) when I was beautifully and passionately seduced by another woman; l hasten to add with my consent. It was a lovely awakening.

I hate labels but l think there are many more bi women around than people think.

I see no reason for bi people not to be happily married.

Drop me a PM if you want to chat.

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