A friend!!??

[Grandmi]

Ok so I had a horrible fall a few weeks ago..dislocated shoulder and fractured my arm....so basically I have not been able to drive,work or do anything normal!! My friends and family have been brilliant helping me ! Today/ yesterday I did ask a friend.(.who I have supported and helped with her mother who has dementia ) to take me to local supermarket. She did give me a lift but refused to help me with the shop and packing..apparently she hates this store !! I was absolutely shocked when she said that, and was helped by other customers. !! She did pick me up 45 mins later ..am feeding very disillusioned and bewildered!!

At least she didn’t offer to drive your shopping home whilst you walked, OP

Was it ALDI?

Never been myself but don't you have to pack really fast & they throw it all at you and it's quite stressful? That would explain both the OP needing help and why the friend didn't want to have to do it?

I was going to say was it Aldi? Their layout and packing system can be a bit stressful and isn’t for everyone.

I think your friend should have been honest or just suggested another shop. And of course it would be almost impossible to pack and get your purse out and pay ,at the speed they expect in Aldu/Lidl, with only the use of one arm.

Sorry - ungrateful. She drove you there and picked you up. That is her time and her petrol. She explained that she couldn't go in - she does not need to tell you why. The staff can help.

Perhaps she has a stalker there, or her mum had an accident/made a scene there (dementia can do that), or they accused her of something or she really didn't want to be away from her family for long or she didn't want to walk round a shop with you for 45 minutes like a carer. Who knows. It doesn't matter. She drove you there and back - that was more than a lot of people would do. Just say thank you

As PP have said , you could always shop online.

If it was Aldi.or Lidl I would have helped but I hate those shops

Online shopping and delivery is your friend OP no need to rely on anyone there

Either do.online shopping or go to.one of the big 4 supermarkets (rather than Aldi or Lidl) and tell customer services that you need an assisted shop - they'll get a member of staff to push the trolley round for you, get what you need and pack it for you too. No need to ask a friend to help you then.

Frankly... she is such a bad friend, she drove you there and back but how did she dare not give you a full comprehensive service assistance?

Next time, take a taxi.

Just shop online

Some weird people on this thread.

If this were your mother or grandmother who’d had a bad fall and had injured their shoulder, would you honestly just take them to the supermarket but not go in and help them push the trolley and pack?

Did you ask her why she hates that particular shop?

The OP said she asked the friend to take her to the supermarket - it may not have occurred to the friend that she meant could she help with the shopping too.

How difficult is it to work out that someone with a dislocated shoulder and broken arm may need help in a supermarket?

When you say she refused to help, did she actually refuse or did she just not offer?

Do people just read what they want too.The op has helped this friend out.And now when she needs help the "friend" wouldnt help her.

I wouldnt be too quick to help her out in future.

I think that you are the ungrateful and selfish. She gave you a lift there and back. She’s not your slave.

Why didn't you do online shopping OP? Surely that would be easier for everyone including you? If you're out of action for several weeks then you should be looking for ways of coping that minimise the impact on everyone else. People don't mind helping as a one-off but if you've been like this for several weeks then maybe she's fed up of helping or thinks you're taking advantage of people?

I despair of MN at times. Selfish and ungrateful? Yes the friend maybe but not someone with injuries like the OP that has helped this person out previously.

There’s got to be something seriously lacking in someone that could see a friend struggling round the supermarket with a trolley and packing the stuff with injuries like this.

@NoSauce my thoughts exactly.

think that you are the ungrateful and selfish. She gave you a lift there and back. She’s not your slave

Wow that iscthe shittest reply ever!! Hope you never have any sort of injury.

You try doing pretty much any thing with a broken arm and a dislocated sholder including by the way washing dressing and even toiletting yourself.

Hope no one comes and helps ypu for this shitty reply

I hate Asda personally but I’d still venture in one if a friend needed my help, rather strange behaviour from your ‘friend’.

Online shopping is probably the way to go.

Well I've not very often seen such shitty and spiteful replies as on here.
OP has gladly given help to her friend in the past, who has a mother with dementia. And now she has hurt her shoulder and needed help with her shopping. I don't think it's exactly too much to ask for someone just to take her to the shops and help pack the shopping. It's the least a friend could do. It's actually quite difficult to manage just everyday normal things with an injured shoulder. I think going on some of the replies on this thread, quite a few of these people are probably shitty friends themselves.

Was it Lidl rather than Waitrose or something?

How unkind