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To demand that he let me take this job?

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Madridinmymemories · 17/07/2019 17:52

My partner and I have been struggling financially for a few years. We both work but there's never enough coming in although we live frugally. We moved to a bigger house and everything is more expensive, even though we live closer to our jobs and so our quality of life is better.
I've racked up quite a bit of debt in a year, it's not been on fancy handbags but things like petrol, a present for a kid's party that my dd was dying to go to, and bloody nursery fees! We really need to get some more money coming in as there's a real chance that I soon won't be able to keep up with the late fees and interest. Bad credit means I'm no longer able to get a 0% credit card.
I currently work as a ward clerk in a medium secure unit on a forensic men's rehab ward. I love my job and I find chatting to the patients is my favourite part of the job. Obviously there's some altercations and the staff often get shouted at, sometimes assaulted. There's a really good response team and people are rarely seriously hurt.
I've applied for a bank healthcare assistant post in my trust and I've got an interview which I'm excited about. I think I'd be quite good as I already go on the ward lots and chat to the patients. I probably wouldn't choose to work on the more acute wards until I'd had some more experience.
My partner is furious and tells me that I'm crazy to go for it. He keeps saying that I might get attacked or sexually assaulted. I've told him that I'd like to do it for my own career progression and also it would bring some money in. My plan is to do two nights a month and just bring in enough to pay off my debt in six months. Then I can always work more if I need some extra cash or at bank holidays as you get double time.
The truth is that we can't continue like this and he hasn't come up with any solution as to how we can keep our heads above water in the year before our ds starts school.
Who's in the wrong?

OP posts:
SleepingStandingUp · 17/07/2019 20:43

but I can understand him not being thrilled at the idea of working Saturday, having the kids on his own Sat night and then looking after them alone on Sunday whilst you sleep
It's twice a month. My plan is to do two nights a month, Lots of parents work a full day then come home cook dinner and put the kids to bed. On the Sunday even if OP works say 8 pm til 8 am, in bed by 10 am she could be back up in time to help with dinner and put the kids to bed. Twice a month to get them out of debt.

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