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Original poster

To put DD on an airbed in our room?

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Fatkins · 17/07/2019 14:39

Very minor disagreement between DH and me.

My sister is staying with us for a week and we have no spare room. DD is 4 and a half and has a lovely big double bed of her own, so initially, we thought we'd give that to my sister and put DD on an airbed on the floor in the same room. We did that for two nights, but, although my sister is being terribly polite about it, I think her sleep is getting disrupted by DD who keeps shuffling around on the air bed, (without waking up). Also, she then wakes up early and badgers dsis to watch cartoons on her phone.

So I have now said that DD has to stay in DH's and my room instead. We did this last night and now DH is complaining that he didn't get a good night's sleep. My feelings are that as we are the hosts, we have to just suck it up and deal with the slight disruption (DD is quite shuffley).

Alternatively, dsis has offered to go on the airbed in the living room, or we could put DD in the living room on the airbed. But I'm not keen on DD being downstairs on her own as we are right at the top of the house.

DD loves the airbed and doesn't want to go back in her normal bed. I think she sleeps better in it though. Maybe I should take dsis up on her offer of taking the airbed in the living room 🤔.

Thoughts?

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Goldmandra · 17/07/2019 15:28

Airbeds are noisy when you shuffle around on them but you could solve that by putting a blanket under your DD.

Derbee · 17/07/2019 15:29

Your husband is acting like a spoilt arse. Your kid, your room, your problem. Not your guests. He should grow up. It’s only temporary

moreismore · 17/07/2019 15:30

Buy your husband some earplugs and point out he copes when his parents are here.

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 15:31

Georgia

I think that would be a lot worse for dsis in terms of sleep! DD would kick ten bells out of her in her sleep 😂.

Gold

Thanks! That's a good tip. I'll try it later.

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Alsohuman · 17/07/2019 15:32

Absolutely point out that there’s no issue when his parents stay, he’s being really precious.

Rachelover40 · 17/07/2019 15:37

If your husband is that bothered, he could sleep on the air bed downstairs and you share your double with your daughter. Problem solved! It's not for long.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/07/2019 15:37

Put DD in bed with DH and you have the airbed.

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 15:42

Sweeney

He wouldn't get any sleep that way. It would be far worse!

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 17/07/2019 15:46

What about DSis on airbed in DDs room

CatG85 · 17/07/2019 15:46

I always used to go on some kind of put me up in my mum and dads room as a kid when we had guests. It's where I spent pretty much every Christmas when my nans stayed haha

I think the set up you have is the right one, DH needs to put up or get on the sofa I think

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 15:48

What about DSis on airbed in DDs room

I think if she's having the airbed anyway, she'd probably rather it go in the living room so she doesn't get woken up in the morning.

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Vesperia · 17/07/2019 15:49

DH on airbed in the living room.

Tavannach · 17/07/2019 15:51

When DH's parents stay there is no question of her staying anywhere but our room

Your DSis is a guest, just like his parents. Why does he think it should be different for her?

Seren10 · 17/07/2019 15:57

Can you stay on the airbed or sofa downstairs with DD?

SunshineCake · 17/07/2019 16:06

Tough shit that your husband has had his sleep disturbed. It's not about being the hosts ffs he's her parent! Hmm.

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 16:09

Well it is a little bit about being hosts, sunshine. If we weren't hosting, dd would be in her bed as usual!

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Stompythedinosaur · 17/07/2019 16:11

Of course parents share with their own dc before more distant relatives have to!

Your dh is being selfish.

Another option would be for you and dh to take turns sleeping on the airbed in lounge while the other one shares with dd.

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 16:21

Seren

Our sofas are far too short for me and they slope off to one side, so I don't think DD would sleep brilliantly on them. Also, we'd have to do dd's bedtime and then have nowhere to sit in the evening.

Dinosaurs

DH wouldn't get any sleep if he shared a bed with dd. She does shuffle around a lot and is quite tall!

I think we're going to try dsis in the living room tonight and see how it goes. If she's uncomfortable I'll put DD back with us tomorrow.

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tolerable · 17/07/2019 16:25

cant dd sleep in beside her auntie.?if its a double bed?

diddl · 17/07/2019 16:33

Is it worth your daughter & sister trying the double bed together?

If not I think daughter in your room.

Seems daft an adult on the floor when there's a double bed they can use!

flouncyfanny · 17/07/2019 16:33

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Cookiedough123 · 17/07/2019 16:39

Why dont you get a fan in your room. It seems to block out other noises and i dont get woken up anymore by my boyfriend in the morning shuffling round and leaving. We even use it in winter now as we both sleep better.

Original poster
Fatkins · 17/07/2019 16:40

Yes, what am I doing? She's fine in our room as evidenced by the fact that she does it when in-laws stay 🤷.

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LeekMunchingSheepShagger · 17/07/2019 16:49

I think it's really not on to have a guest in the living room on an air bed when there is a double bed she could sleep in! Your dh needs to suck it up!

dreichhighlands · 17/07/2019 16:50

If it is good enough for his parents it is good enough for your sister.
Why does your family have to come second to your DH when his family's comfort comes before yours?

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