My Mum putting pics of my kids on her social media

[Talia1234]

So my Mum lives abroad, we have a very strained relationship. However I do keep her up to date with regards her grandchildren, I send regular photos, my eldest writes to her etc.
I have been told that my Mum is putting all of the photos I send her, on her social media. I don’t feel comfortable with this, I am a private person anyway and very rarely post anything on my own social media to do with the children. When I do I always check my privacy settings and I am quite strict with who is on my friends list. I don’t know who is on my Mum’s friend lists and also I went on to one of her accounts to have a look and it’s not even private so I could see everything. Am I being unreasonable asking her not to post photos of my children?

My mum does this too. Unfortunately she just does it for the "likes".
I would send her pictures of my daughter as a private message then the next day she would post it on her social media as if she had taken the photo herself 🙄
I don't send her pictures of my daughter anymore but haven't told her why because she doesn't ask and also it's not worth causing an argument over so maybe just don't send your mum any pictures or if you do watermark it with your name 🤷‍♀️

This wouldn't bother me personally.

Thank you for the reply. That sounds exactly like my Mum! She hasn’t exactly been there as a grandmother (even before moving) and does tend to do things for show and when it makes her look good.

She should ask you first.

Of course not. Just ask her to stop.

Yanbu it would bother me. Can you offer to show her how to update her settings and allow her to post photos that don’t show their faces? Other photos can be shared with her close friends via a messenger group. Tell her a couple horror stories about paedophiles hunting down kids via Facebook to explain your concerns and how easy it is to share too much. If she sees that you still are trying to help her show them off but in a safe way she will hopefully understand.

yanbu
stop sending her pictures. or only send unidentifiable ones with background information (location where taken) removed.

as a pp said, explain that there are peadphiles etc that like a fb piccie of children to wank over. Ask her how she feels about that?

Just say no to pictures on social media. If she doesn`t stop, you stop providing them.

Tell her to take them all down. If she refuses, report the photos to fb and they'll take them down. I would stop sending photos altogether if she won't respect your wishes on this.

I think if you haven't asked her not to do it, yabu. Just explain why. If she doesn't stop, then sure, stop sending her the photos. But just ask her first.

yanbu. I specifically left Facebook and other social media last year, because I disagreed with the way my data was being handled and processed. Therefore I would be furious if my Mum posted photos of my children on social media.

Report photos to fb.
Tell your mum not to put photos online.
If she does it again: dont send her anymore photos.

Thank you all for your replies. I am going to ask her to take them down.