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AIBU?

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Was this fair?

19 replies

Howlovely · 16/07/2019 21:09

Please forgive me, I'm trying to keep things a bit vague but I hope it's not too annoying.
Friends A, B and C were going to an event together. Friend A said she would book and pay for a triple hotel room. Friends B and C would pay her back at the event. Friend B pulled out of event at last minute and Friend C then gave Friend A her third of the room cost whilst saying how cheeky Friend B was for not paying her third and now Friend A is saddled with paying two thirds. Friend A felt that if two people share a hotel room then they split the cost equally and that C should have paid half of the cost. Friend B is in the middle of something quite serious so A feels she can't really ask her to cover the cost.
I hope that wasn't too much of a pain to read. What does everyone else think?

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ScreamingValenta · 16/07/2019 21:11

If it's not possible to recoup the cost from B, friends A and C should split it between them.

formerbabe · 16/07/2019 21:11

B should have paid up.

If situation is serious/delicate hence why no payment, it would have been kind for C to offer to share the burden with A.

MamaOfBothTeams · 16/07/2019 21:12

Friend C should've paid her third depending on how late she decided to cancel

But if friend C refused to pay then

Friend B should've shared the other third with friend A so they should've paid half each

MamaOfBothTeams · 16/07/2019 21:13

Oops got my b and c mixed up

RockyRolly · 16/07/2019 21:13

This is why you get payment upfront before booking.

MeredithGrey1 · 16/07/2019 21:13

If I was C I’d probably have offered to split B’s bill with A.

If I was B I’d have paid my share when I cancelled.

Stompythedinosaur · 16/07/2019 21:13

I think B should pay, but if they flatly refuse then probably C should split the cost. If A doesn't want to ask B to pay what was agreed then they should pay.

MummytoCSJH · 16/07/2019 21:14

I think B should still pay their share. The other 2 wouldn't have needed to book a triple room has they known she wasn't going and although they would have paid half each it would likely have been cheaper. It's not fair for A or C to be expected to pay more than the original share they agreed to.

MarthasGinYard · 16/07/2019 21:14

Split equally between two remaining guests.

PooWillyBumBum · 16/07/2019 21:14

B should pay up and honour the commitment.

MarthasGinYard · 16/07/2019 21:14

B should certainly pay up though

Madasahattersteaparty1749 · 16/07/2019 21:15

Always get money before booking anything.

I think friend b needs to pay her share.

I would have offered to go 1/2s on the room but can understand if friend c is on a tight budget why they would only cough up their share.

Iltavilli · 16/07/2019 21:16

Matters little what is happening with B. They made a commitment to their friends so needs to pay up.

Notthetoothfairy · 16/07/2019 21:18

If the event hasn’t happened yet, I suggest they contact the hotel to see if a smaller and cheaper room is available. If not, 50/50 is fair if B can’t pay (maybe C feels that B should be asked first, even if dealing with something serious).

ShawshanksRedemption · 16/07/2019 21:18

B should honour agreement, not doing so leaves the other friends paying for their bit, which they hadn't agreed to when the deal was agreed.

A should have got the others money when it was booked, not leave it until nearer the time.

ChiefOfStaph · 16/07/2019 21:37

I agree that B should pay their share. If B refuses then C should definitely offer to split. I had a similar thing with a large baby gift for a friend. 3 of us decided to split it and give as a joint gift because of the high cost. I, stupidly and naively, footed the cost expecting it back for one of them not to pay me after several attempts of me asking. Her name was on the gift too! When my friend thanked her she just stood there and said aww you're welcome. I've never been so angry. The other friend didn't even bother to offer anymore money either even when I told her about it. I was too annoyed to argue with either of them. I just made it clear to my friend with the baby what had happened. Sorry not much more help apart from it's morally wrong and friend A will learn a very valuable life lesson.

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Howlovely · 17/07/2019 17:48

@ChiefOfStaph oh my word that is unbelievable! How can she do that?!
Thank you for your responses, it's an interesting mix.

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fishonabicycle · 17/07/2019 17:52

B should pay as she pulled out after the room had been booked. If she won't (which makes her a CF), the cost should be split.

Nautiloid · 17/07/2019 17:53

B should pay.
If there's a really, really, really good reason B can't, C should have assumed she was paying half. And you can bet she knows it and is banking on not being called out on it.

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