To feel upset about this?

[ALittleBitOfHappiness]

My cousin and I have always been extremely close until about 3 years ago when we had an argument- admittedly I was in the wrong, but she had done her fair amount of bad too.

Although what I did was 'wrong', I never regretted it as such as I always felt it was justified, and that sounds like a terrible thing to say, but it's not as bad as it seems.

Moving on 3 years, we have moved on, however her fiancée really doesn't like me, although he's never met me and was the reason for the whole argument in the first place. I am ttc and confided in her, she then 3 weeks later told me she had just found out she was pregnant but was going to have an abortion and had not told anyone, only me and her best friend. At this point I felt like we had bonded again after a long time of our relationship being a bit strained (we talked pretty regularly for a couple of months before she told me this)

Now for the AIBU, about 3 months ago I saw on social media that her boyfriend had proposed to her. She never told me personally but I messaged her and congratulated her and she seemed happy that I messaged her. Nothing else was mentioned.

A month ago, my dad called me to tell me he had been invited to the wedding, I hadn't. He tried to reassure me by telling me it was a very small wedding and I need not be upset.

Today, I received a message from her telling me she was getting married (she assumed it was the first I'd heard about it) and that she'd like for me to join. It's in 1 months time and overseas.

As soon as I read the message, I had the biggest grin on my face, and pretty much forgot the initial feeling of hurt by not have been invited in the first place. I called my dad excitedly to tell him the news, to which he was very happy, however he did have stern words with my granny to tell her he wasn't happy that I wasn't invited (he knows the full story)

I now feel this huge feeling of only being invited out of guilt and that I am still not wanted, and i have a 'pity' invite.

I guess my question Is aibu for feeling this way, as I know we had a big argument a while ago, but in my mind we had recovered from this, or shall I just accept that it's her wedding and that she obviously should be the one happy with who she invites as it's her big day?

Maybe your only invited because someone dropped out which is sad but could be true. I wouldn't go

It sounds like you have reconnected and genuinely want to go, and those are good enough reasons to go. I would try to put all the backstory out of your mind.

So three years ago you had a falling out and blame the fiancé as the reason. You admitted you were 'wrong' but feel it was justified (did you ever apologise?). Fiance hates you.

If the groom doesn't like you, possibly because of what happened 3 years ago and how you treated cousin then why would he want you at his wedding? Don't go, your dad had to manipulate your gran into guilt tripping them. You are not actually wanted there.

Was it really necessary to post the part about her abortion? Must be quite private - you kept the topic of the argument a secret but included something so personal of hers?! You couldn’t have just said she confided in you?!

I would ask her nicely why you have been invited so late as your dad told you about it some time ago, and make a decision based on her response.

Why not say what the argument is instead of mentioning about the abortion? To be honest without knowing any details at all it’s hard to say anything. If you want to go then go and if you don’t feel truly invited then don’t go.