To think it's non of mil's business

[BeepBopToTheBeep]

According to mil we need to sell our house and just rent a house in a better school catchment area. Even though the rent would be more than our mortgage. And we need to start going to church every week to get dc into a good school. Even though me and dh are both atheists. And we need to start looking at and contacting these good schools. Dc is only 19 months. Every time we see her it's just more unsolicited advice. Wish she would just f**k off with her advice. AIBU to think it's non of her business.

Well, on the one hand, it's nice that she cares. On the other hand. . . you're going to be hearing this particular tune for quite some time to come, aren't you?!

She cares more about giving unsolicited advice when we see her than interacting with her only grandchild.

Tell her to fuck off with the constant shite.

Unsolicited.

get dh to tell her to stop with the advice - say ots lovely shes interested in dc future but your teh parents you'll decide.... warn her if she doesnt stop you wont go as much ....
don't go as much
Its time to move to an adult relationship with her now...sounds like she thinks your still children...

seriously better to sort early then let it build up and fester...
(although in my area she may have a point about schools.:) ... the secondary church schools are so selective the churches have waiting lists for brass polishing..) you'd be too late for a couple of them at 19months!

Yeah YANBU. It's nothing to do with her. And it's also a pretty awful idea.

It used to drive me insane when people wittered on about “ooh you’d better get their name down for x (state) school” when the DC were babies. Surely everyone knows that is not how the state system works?!

My mother was exactly the same about primary schools when DS1 was younger - I ignored her and am very happy with his school. I can't say anything about it though as she just rolls her eyes and tells me about her friends children's schools which are 'amazing'. No, they sound exactly like my DC's school.

Her current obsession is that DS1 will need to move in with her to get into the high-school local to her as its better than our local one...now, it is actually better but good enough for me to pack my child off to live with her?! No.

Anyway....that was a bit of a rant. YANBU.

ImportantWater yeah it's annoying. Mil was going on about primary and secondary schools when dc was 8 weeks old

You could point out that by the time DC is ready for school the ones considered to be good could be quite different from the ones considered good now. The one we are hoping to send No.1 child to next year didn’t even exist when he was born.
That or press an imaginary button and say “Kill her” ((c) Armstrong & Miller) every time she brings it up.

When mil found we were expecting she said never mind, and how could I dare when his ex wanted his babies!!
Not even the most recent ex either!!
If I was religious I would say mils are sent to try our patience...
Yanbu to learn' fuck off' in another language and mutter in her company op...

@UpToonGirl she wants your child to live with her to attend her local High school, that's bonkers! How far do you live from your mother? Bet that's not her only bonkers idea?

@Yellowweatherwarning what a nasty thing to say, did your dh say anything when she said that? I like the idea of saying it in another language

She caught me alone. I made sure to spell out ds was planned. We went nc when ds was 3 months old...
Bliss.

I'd tell her you're not willing to trade secure housing for an insecure tenancy renting but if she's willing to gift you the difference in house prices so that you could move to that better area, you'd be more than happy to accept.

I can help with shut up in Danish 😁

'Hold kæft'

Link to pronounce kæft

ordnet.dk/ddo/ordbog?query=k%C3%A6ft

If link works tab the little loud speaker.

Tell her you're making plans for her care home.

Do a tinkly laugh and say "oh Mother Dear, you are so funny! We are going to homeschool DS, do his spirit can be free, and he can express his inner armadillo. We couldn't bear to have him stifled by the System, and have to obey rules."

Tell your MIL to pretend that DC is living with her, and to further pretend that she (your MIL) is taking your DC to church regularly. Then your DC will be able to attend a good school-supposing your MIL lives close to one.
Warn her that she will be committing a criminal offence, and then see how important she thinks the issue is.

My ex MIL disapproved of dd's primary school because it was an 'estate' school, she did say that I should move to a better area so DD could get the best education. Er no I can't move, because your dick of a son won't pay child maintenance.

DD has just graduated with a 2:1

haha BeepBopToTheBeep I know, crazy. She's about 40 mins away from us. She's mainly only like this about DS1, not my other two, always has been. Wish I had put more boundaries in place when he was younger!