To worry about my 9 month old’s development?

[CathyandHeathcliff]

He’s actually 9 months tomorrow. He crawls, pulls himself up on everything and is cruising the furniture. But he doesn’t appear to respond to his name every time, he can’t clap or wave either. Although he will bang two blocks or cups together, just not his hands.
Both me and his dad have tried modelling clapping and waving, but nothing.
The fact he doesn’t respond to his name worries me too, as he’s starting nursery in September.

He smiles at people and will giggle if you tickle him or if his dad throws him up in the air, but is quite moody at home usually, whinges when he’s playing alone or when I leave the room. Also now has a SCREAM when we take something off him or do something he doesn’t want us to, like wipe his face & hands.

Should I be concerned?

(Please be gentle with me, I have anxiety and do tend to over worry about everything)

My son is nearly 17 months. At 9 months he didn't respond consistently to his name, clap or wave. He now does all these things!! Cruising, crawling and walking are wildly variable amongst children and depend on proportions, strength, inclination etc...!

Sounds fine to me.
My 20month old is only just starting to be happy playing by himself for long periods of time.

Normal enough.

Had four DC, none of them clapped or waved at this age. Tends to happen around 12-14 months.

You’re being slightly neurotic. I get it, it’s your first child and you want them to be absolutely perfect but honestly, your baby is absolutely fine.

Also want to say that the developmental milestones of a baby have absolutely no bearing on their intelligence in later life. I’ve actually found my ‘lazier’ children are the most academically capable.

They’re all so different and develop at their own pace in different ways. My 8 month old dd can clap and wave and usually does so when prompted, such as when you say “say bye bye” or “you clap” but she can barely crawl (maybe a couple of inches of caterpillar type crawling and is miles away from being able to pull herself up or cruise. She will respond to her name sometimes but tbh I could say any word and she’ll respond,I really don’t think she recognises her actual name.

She’s also suddenly constantly grumpy,screams if not allowed something and cries when I leave the room or don’t give her attention for 5 minutes. I really wouldn’t worry.

If your child has autism, he has autism, nothing is going to change it. @MyOpinionIsValid my son showed possible signs of autism at that age and is currently under assessment at age 6, I don't really think that's a horror story
I used to think I was lucky as he would play on his own for ages and didn't seem to mind if I wasn't in the room, looking back now it was a probably a sign.