to ask him on a date

[datingnovice]

been speaking to this guy i met online for about 10 days. we have really hit it off and have texted near enough all day every day (apart from when at work) we have discussed things we want to do in the future and often discuss it as if we would be doing it together. i’ve recently come out of a 12 year relationship and have never been on a ‘proper’ date so obviously i’m nervous. we have mentioned in passing about meeting up but neither of us have actually asked to go on a date. is this going nowhere? should i just bite the bullet and ask him? i don’t even know what to say. due to bad experiences in the past i am terrified of rejection so i think that’s holding me back a bit but i really just want to get it over with as i really like him the more we talk and if it’s not going to work out in person, i’d rather know sooner rather than later!

Ask him to meet for coffee during the daytime. Have something booked for 45 minutes or an hour after the date so you feel less pressured and know it's just a quick meeting to see if there is chemistry in person.

Agee with Chochito, a day time coffee or drink is the way forward. Good luck!

"and often discuss it as if we would be doing it together." ... 10 days. You have only been talking for 10 days.

Christ. Have you even heard his voice? Know his surname?

Definitely ask him to meet for a coffee. You may find you have absolutely no chemistry so best to keep it fairly brief
Good luck!
(You know the bit about discussing things in the future as if you've going to do them together is wierd right ?

@tallgreenbottle i KNOW it seems weird and trust me i’d be thinking the same if it was someone else. We have a lot to talk about over text but i’m aware it could all be different in real life which is why i’m keen to meet up especially as it does seem like it’s moving very quickly. i do know his surname but we haven’t spoken over the phone.

I'd talk to him on the phone before you meet in person. It won't tell you if there's chemistry, but it will make you less nervous.

With my ex, who I met on Tinder, we really hit it off, it was my first time on the app and first time doing doing OLD, so I wasn't aware of etiquette TBH.

After two weeks I was getting bored of chatting on text, so when he asked me a new question about myself, I replied, "Oh, it's a long story, too much for text, I'l have to tell you it over a beer sometime." And I then changed the subject.

Next message, he's asking me out. Turned out he wasn't that great with reading signs or OLD. We didn't last, but are still friends. Good luck.

@Chochito is right too. My ex BF and I met without talking on the phone and did hit it off.

But after we split, I would often chat to a guy on the phone before meeting. Saves for potential awkwardness.

Plus it helps to know the guy doesn't have a squeaky voice.