I have a bit of a tumultuous situation with my mum. She enables my brother by paying all his bills so he doesn't work, and he spends his whole day at his paid for flat smoking weed. My dad is against this and I think my parents are close to a divorce.
I have been trying to talk sense to my mum, saying that she is hurting him in the long run and that he's almost 40 with practically no job experience. I don't know how he is going to survive when my parents die and my own husband doesn't want us to take over paying for my brother.
I'm so frustrated because my mum doesn't want to talk about my brother and she says she gives up so she just gives him everything. She says she doesn't care what happens when she dies to him because she won't see it. I do worry what will happen when she dies because I'm not cold enough to want my brother to become homeless. Just so there's no drip feed... My brother and parents do not live in the UK like we do. If he becomes homeless, he will really be homeless with no help.
AIBU to still try to get her to stop enabling him despite her getting upset about talking about it?