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Who pays what?

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ifoundthebread · 15/07/2019 20:06

As the title suggests. Who pays what in this scenario.

A lends an item off B to be used during an alcohol fuelled 21st birthday party. C breaks this item while drunk. B tells A item cost £100 when it was bought, C gives A £100 to order a new one to give back to B. Item is no longer available and closest one found is £150. Should C cough up the extra £50 to buy a replacement or has C payed enough as that is what the broken item was worth.

OP posts:
Sorryisntgoodenough · 15/07/2019 21:40

B said £100 so that’s what C paid. If B had said that it would cost £150 to replace in the beginning would C have automatically coughed up the full cost?

CruellaFeinberg · 15/07/2019 21:46

B had a gazebo, C broke it

If C wont pay, then A has to, and should take it as a relatively small cost to see what an arse C is

jelly79 · 15/07/2019 22:06

A's responsibility to pay B. Depending on how the damage was caused it's C's responsibility to pay A

ohhelloitsyou · 15/07/2019 22:19

A should look into buying a new gazebo for B. B shouldn’t have to pay anything for a new one. A needs to use Cs £100 and find something either the same as or better. Prime day sales are on. Unless it was a specific brand that B bought for the name then I shouldn’t think it needs to be the exact same gazebo does it? Perhaps A and C could work together to find a replacement that does all that the original one did and is the same size and quality and then send a selection of options to B and ask if any of those would be a good replacement?
Otherwise I honestly think a and c should be responsible for paying £150 for a new gazebo and learn to hold their drink a bit better.

Whatisinaname1 · 15/07/2019 22:49

C is unlucky it's increased in price but could have been lucky and found it decreased when replacing. They need to replace either with A contributing or not.

Was C drunk and staggering as falling into it from pissing around would be a quick way to break it.

B shouldn't be out of a gazebo because her/his friends were irresponsible and broke it.

What are a and c thoughts OP?

fargo123 · 15/07/2019 23:23

The owner shouldn't be out of pocket in any way, as s/he is the 'victim' in this. It's up to the other two people to make it right.

If that means splitting the remaining £50 between the two of them, or one of them paying £50 and the other £100, or whatever division they come up, but regardless, the owner shouldn't be contributing at all.

SparklesandFlowers · 16/07/2019 07:14

Hmm. A gazebo can be broken accidentally, by tripping and falling on it, not necessarily drunkenly. But B has every right to assume it would come back to them in the condition it was given, as it's not generally the kind of thing that gets broken.

I think C and A between them need to stump up the remaining £50. B should get back exactly the gazebo they lent. If it's no longer in the sale then that's tough.

wombatron · 16/07/2019 07:20

Ridiculous the comments on your wording - it's clear you were using regional dialect and I'm not from anywhere near your area.

C should cough up. A lent it to B, who didn't do anything to it. C broke the item - it doesn't matter who owns it, they broke it. So they should pay the £100 plus whatever extra it now costs if that model is no longer available at that price.

A however could be kind and accept that when you lend someone something, it comes with a risk and perhaps see if there's something more suitable within the original budget. There are plenty of gazebos out there for £100.

wombatron · 16/07/2019 07:21

Sorry got my A and B muddled the wrong way!

MIdgebabe · 16/07/2019 07:22

Lend an item off may be regional and very common when I was growing up

Jamiefraserskilt · 16/07/2019 07:51

C has paid..B has to accept it was leant for a high risk event. It was not new. Annoying as it may be B should pay the difference. B should shop around for a suitable replacement as gazebos can be cheaper online or end of season.

Sparklyring · 16/07/2019 07:58

Lend an item is really well used where I come from in the North East.

Yamayo · 16/07/2019 08:01

Bottom line is you lend something, you should get it back.
Cost should be irrelevant. The item should be returned, and whenever broke it should replace it.

Yamayo · 16/07/2019 08:02

Sorry, that is a lot of shoulds... Grin

Asiama · 16/07/2019 08:02

B needs to have the item replaced. If the item was now £80, A and C would not be expected to give be £100 as that is more than what the replacement costs. By the same logic, £100 no longer gets B a replacement, therefore they need to give B £150.

Cheeserton · 16/07/2019 08:07

The item should be replaced.

mrsbyers · 16/07/2019 08:28

Another NE'r here and lend is very commonly used

To answer the question £100 seems fair

Pineapplefish · 16/07/2019 08:33

C should pay the full amount of £150 as they broke the item. It's irrelevant that it originally cost less - that's not going to help A, is it!

newmomof1 · 16/07/2019 08:44

C paid the full value of the item (which is presumably more than the item would be worth as it was used).

C has been more than reasonable.

A could offer the additional £50 but if B knew where the item was being used, they knew the risks.

MyOpinionIsValid · 16/07/2019 08:48

B needs their gazebo replaced - how A and C achieve this is irrelevent.

GrabbyGertie · 16/07/2019 09:00

The item should be replaced by A and B. It does t have to be new. Gazebos Cary massively in quality so the replacement should be similar quality.

The sales are on - is it possible to find one on sale and save the day! Can you post the details of the gazebo then posters might help you find a bargain. Wink

StillCoughingandLaughing · 16/07/2019 09:07

It depends on why an item that originally cost £100 now costs £150. If it’s because B got lucky and found a special offer that’s now over, that’s A and C’s hard luck - they still owe B a replacement regardless of price. If it’s because B bought it ten years ago, she probably has to accept that she’s pushing her luck to expect a brand new replacement for £50 more.

I also think YABU for saying B lent A the gazebo for ‘an alcohol-fuelled party’. It implies it’s her own fault it got broken when, alcohol-fuelled or not, you could all have been more careful.

Justkeeprollingalong · 16/07/2019 09:13

B should get a gazebo. If the damage was accidental A and C should share the cost. If C was being an idiot, they should pay. Either way the end result needs to be that C still has a gazebo.

Justkeeprollingalong · 16/07/2019 18:05

Sorry B should have a gazebo not C

BitchyArriver · 17/07/2019 03:55

Surely a gazebo can be repaired?

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