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To ask for holiday ideas for older children

51 replies

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 16:21

Sort of at the age of being too old for planned 'activities' but not old enough to be just left for the day. Older primary / early secondary.

What do you do with them? If I left my two they would just stay on their screens all day. Which might be Ok once in a while I guess. Just wondered if others had the same, wanted to share ideas.

Oh, someone will ask, so my AIBU is is it not quite tricky with this age in the holidays?

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Fizzypoo · 15/07/2019 17:36

I love it when I'm organised enough to prep dinner in the morning 🙌

WhenOneFacePalmDoesntCutIt · 15/07/2019 17:38

I send my eldest to the supermarket with some cash and let them buy ingredients then cook diner once in a while.

The little ones help me do my online shopping and they start cooking their own things.

Newgirls · 15/07/2019 17:38

Mine do the library scheme. You get a passport and each time you read a book you get it stickeres/talk to the librarian about it. Prob works up til about 13/14?!

MercedesDeMonteChristo · 15/07/2019 17:38

We are in a London so I appreciate this perhaps easier, but we have been to the British Museum before and tend to go and just look at one section or similar rather than spending the whole day, followed by playground or similar. They still like kicking a ball about and zip wires etc. We visited the Louvre once and printed a self guided tour where we viewed it as a residence so avoided any crowds because we weren’t scrambling for the Mona Lisa and it was fun. I think the point I am trying to make is that museums can be different each time, though accept less so if it is a small one.

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:44

We are in a city also and thinking maybe

Tourist open top bus
Museums have a archaeology day

But they kind of moan a bit about anything too organised. Think is the age! they have kind of outgrown the library challenge also- although they do love to read which I guess is good.

The interactive science museum is really good but needs a train trip so a bit of a day out. We have a family railcard as I can't drive- that can be good. Can also go to seaside on it but couple of hours.

Sometimes a mix of days out and days recovering seems to work OK. as much for me as them, balance between going stir crazy (in) and overtired (out)

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Ohyesiam · 15/07/2019 17:45

We’ve never done organised stuff( they can go on scout camp and cadet camp for that).
We really love Scotland, so go there every other year, and do stuff like swim in really magical remote places, climb up things, Ben Nevis defeated us.
We visit islands like Sky that are breathtakingly beautiful. We don’t do much, but we always have a great time. It’s just the beauty of the place.
Other years we get an air b&b on a Greek island, lots of beach and swimming and walking in the evenings.
Mine are 12& 14 now, but we’ve not really changed how we do things.

Ohyesiam · 15/07/2019 17:47

I’ve just realised , you mean school holidays don’t you? Not going on holiday Blush

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:48

Oh just remembered my eldest is doing the D of E and the charity shop said he could make up some hours over the holiday if he is free. I find the youngest easier in a way sometimes

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user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:49

Yes the summer holidays although going away can be part of that Smile I grew up in Scotland so know what you mean.

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Lavenderduck · 15/07/2019 17:49

Like the idea of shopping for food/cooking / theme dinners! Small budget for each day is also excellent idea by PP. I will get girls to write a list of stuff they would like to do or research online.
Could try to teach them to set up family tent in garden...a challenge! I hope to take them to this outdoor pool lido an hour drive away on a sunny day as they love swimming - add some holiday vibe to it.

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:50

We often go to France and DC swim in gorges and stuff, but not this year unfortunately. They do like that and going to be missing that break.

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user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:51

The lido sounds fun, we have one in nearby city, might look into that

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Loveislandaddict · 15/07/2019 17:51

Geo-caching

Look at local country parks - some have orienteering courses, trim trails etc

thaegumathteth · 15/07/2019 17:53

In Scotland there are a lot of discounts available on days out when you buy a train ticket - check if there’s anything similar near you.

thaegumathteth · 15/07/2019 17:53

Oh also what about ‘borrow my doggy’ if that’s something you’d be interested in?

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:55

Could get rest of D of E stuff done maybe like skill / physical parts

My pass for the sports centre maybe a godsend as they can go with and swim, and I could do yoga perhaps.

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user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 17:55

Oh, another idea. Borrow my doggy perhaps. Help someone with a dog / dog walking.

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anothernotherone · 15/07/2019 18:18

Mine have automatic time limits on screens but certainly they aren't banned, otherwise DH and I would surely have to BSN ourselves too, or by hypocrites, given they are not an adults only thing and the kids, not being stupid, know innately what falls into that category and what doesn't.

Also I agree - sometimes all 3 of mine play Minecraft or similar together on the X box split screen, in the living room and have a great, cooperative, sociable time with lots of laughter. Also the case when they have friends over.

We go away for 2 weeks, during which time we do sea related things.

The rest of the holidays mainly centers around them having friends over, playing out, and I take them to outdoor pools as much as possible - the biggest local one they always bump into or arrange to meet friends at, but I also have free access to a smallish basic outdoor pool in a nice setting at my work, and if we go there in the morning we're often the only ones there, or nearly.

They have friends over as much as they like on days there's an adult home all the time, or I'll drive them wherever they want if they've made plans to go to friends or meet friends at the pool or in town during the day.

Sometimes we go for a low key outing just into the nearest bigger town for an ice-cream by the river - it's a beautiful town, which makes it easier!

Occasionally I'll take them out for lunch at a cafe where we can sit outside, but eating out is fairly expensive locally.

Sometimes the older 2 go on a bike ride together, or/ and I'll go with the youngest - I can't keep up with the older 2 Blush

Most Friday evenings a bunch of pre and early teens including my older 2 meet up on the football pitch in our village or the one in the neighboring village and play football for 2-3 hours. They're doing this already, started in late May with light evenings and will hopefully continue all summer. Luckily we live somewhere this is wholeheartedly approved of by older adult neighbors and parents of smaller children alike,not somewhere full of purse lipped grumpy people! We're the closest house to the football field anyway!

We also go for exploring walks in the woods for shade - were outside the UK and summers are a bit hotter on average (tends to hover around 30°C )

I work shifts and do leave the kids alone - my eldest is 14 - though DH and I work it between us so that they're not alone for more than 4 hours, and probably only a couple of times per week - mostly I do lates / nights so they're only alone an hour before DH gets home. When there are no adults home screens are fair game.

My secondary age kids cook dinner one evening per week anyway when I'm on lates or nights (DH is home but mostly does freezer food, which he'll do once per week too) occasionally they cook when I'm home too, and usually once each on holiday - I did teach them, I'd better remember to teach dc3 sometime!

anothernotherone · 15/07/2019 18:19

Ban, not British Sign Language Grin

MercedesDeMonteChristo · 15/07/2019 19:23

I’ve just put the idea of cooking and creating a themed menu to them over dinner and it has gone down really well. They spent dinner discussing their ideas and have gone off to research.

Thanks to the PP who suggested it.

Jaffacakebeast · 15/07/2019 19:36

Mine likes baking, just have to stop him eating it all :/ also bowling, swimming, geocaching and pool/snooker

soapona · 15/07/2019 20:49

My son is 2 weeks away at a PGL camp. One week holiday the rest I'm working so I'm making him study his hobby everyday. Then some coaching online (foreign ones are cheap), then free chess clubs or chess in park style event. Then just shopping for school uniform. He will be on iPad the rest of the time. It's his holiday his choice. If he wanted to do something I would encourage him to come up with a plan and I will go along with it rather than me working out some kind of entertainment programme. I'm sick of spoon feeding and want to encourage initiative.

LoisLittsLover · 15/07/2019 20:57

Have you got a local Children' university? Ours has a list of projects/activities that children can do and earn credits for. They have to earn a set amount to graduate and therenis a proper ceremony. You cannpick activities to suit your budget/interests and lots are totally free eg learn to sign a simple song

user87382294757 · 15/07/2019 22:03

I know what you mean about them doing their own thing a bit. Especially ow they are older. They spend so much time at school being told what to do already as well. I am also unsure about all these things with rewards and treats. Isn't it nice to do something just for the joy of it, rather than to do them all, or to get an award or something.

I like the cooking idea and might be helpful as well. Not even just special things but could help in batch cooking perhaps. Sometimes I like to just hang out and read, in the gardens. or go to a cafe for a change. They might help their dad with some of his work too. I had a summer job at this age.

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transformandriseup · 15/07/2019 22:28

I hated organised activities at that age. I went to tennis camp for a week when I was 11 and I would have murdered someone to get out of it.

We camped in the garden (with brother or friends) most nights. Had water fights, rode our bikes. Went swimming. Took the bus to the beach. Swam in the river. Made pizzas. Went to the cinema. Just chilled in the park/garden on hot days. Had the occasional expensive day out at Thorpe Park/Longleat. Plus one hour of gaming per day.