Last year one day my mum came home and literally sat me down and said she wanted my partner to move out (Back track for about 5months she just decided she wasn't keen on him and never made any effort with him don't know why). We was living there with our daughter and my son. We paid her rent and paid for all our own things as she actually didn't live in the property, she's always at her partners who lives 30mins drive away. Anyway, when she told me he had to go she told me I would have to chose and if I chose him me and the kids would have to leave, which is what happened. We are now at his mums home and looking to move out. My partner made it very clear she wasn't to see our daughter, tbh my mums never shown any interest in our daughter. Never wanted to have her on her own like she does with my son. All she cares about is my son. When she made us leave me and my partner went through a rough patch for about 2 weeks and I ended up in hospital having a nervous breakdown from all the stress and my mum turned up demanding she kept my kids even tried to get me to stay in hospital in the mental health ward as 'it would be good for me'. I'm now back to normal and my mental health doing good. Whenever she is around I go back down hill. She has abused me at my sons nursery calling me a 'vile c u next Tuesdays' infront of all the other parents and kids, I've had to change nursery's as my son didn't want to go anymore. Abused me in the street all in which my kids have been there and witnessed, called women's aid saying my partner beats me up ( he doesn't), told people I'm a 'Crackhead' certainly not! Christmas she was meant to come and pick my son up to have him the day after Boxing Day for a few nights but she never turned up. Last month I received a letter which looks like it's been typed by a professional ( her friend works in family law so I think it could be her
) basically saying she demands access to her 'grandchildren'.. the first word mentioned in the letter is actually 'grandson' which says it all really. I have ignored this letter as she said she has no interest in sorting anything with me or my fiancé but expects to see my kids, son to be more honest. My daughter is mentioned 3 times in a 2 page letter may I add. My son never asks for her, he's 4 and is very forward for his age. He's spoken to my nan and mums partner and hasn't mentioned my mum once which I'm taking as he is happy enough without her? Many people have noticed how she is and have said that once my partner came along my mum lost all control which I 100% agree with. Tbh not sure what I'm getting from writing this long post i just need to get it off my chest and have some advice if I'm doing the right thing keeping her away from my family.