To let my DS play on the trike

[saywhatwhatnow]

Went to a new playgroup this morning which was really nice. Very friendly lady on the door and nice toys etc.

There were two children playing on trikes and over the first hour my DS 14months kept trying to have a go on them. The two children would park them up next to the activity they wanted to play with (kitchen, trampoline, ball pit) and then run over to them if anyone else so much as looked in the direction of them. I looked around for the mum and couldn't figure out who she was. My DS managed to get his bum on one whilst one of the children was playing but as soon as he realised DS was on it came running over crying and shouting 'no it's mine'. I gently asked if it was ok for DS to have a quick go whilst he played and he said 'no!'. I then said he will give it back in a sec and let my DS play. He ran to his mum crying and she just stared at me.

WIBU to let DS have a go? I didn't really know what to do after that so let him have it for a few minutes then moved him onto something else.

Yanbu

Of course you weren’t being unreasonable. Unless the two kids had brought the trikes with them, then they have to take turns.

You were right. Stare back at the mums.

Why not ask the mum if it was her child's? That way, assuming she said no, you could happily let DS play.

Totally reasonable. I would just have taken it as soon as they put it down to do something else.

And if the kids had brought the trikes with them, that’s really for their parent to point out. In a playgroup, it’s a reasonable assumption that toys are fair game as long as nobody is using them at the moment.

Yeah I was a bit worried it was actually his, but then the mum should've come over and said something surely!? I only knew who the mum was when he went over to her (after I'd made him cry ). I'd been looking around for ages to ask her, no one had spoken to him so I really had no idea who he was with.