to think that some men give in for the quiet life and that many women fight their corner ?

[littlepaddypaws]

that's it really, mners often say dh is very relaxed and isn't bothered about dc going saying it'llbe fun and i'm being a killjoy because i'm raging that sil wants to take the 3yo white water rafting. men that won't say boo to a goose because they want to keep everyone happy esp.their parents even if it is detrimental to their partner's happiness and well being. [childhood problems aside].
some women see obvious problems but their partners ignore them and say it'll be okay, but then it's not.

I think you need to ask for this to be moved OP.

sorry, wrong board, have asked for it to be moved to aibu

thoughts anyone ?

I've never understood the term "quiet life". What does it actually mean?

men that won't say boo to a goose because they want to keep everyone happy esp.their parents

It’s not to keep everyone happy, it’s to give themselves the least grief.

thoughts anyone ?

Yes, dear.

A startling revelation indeed

BadLad wins the thread

aibu to think that some people just sit down and start writing stuff without actually trying to make sense out of it, you know as in, say what's happening, who is who and why, I am really puzzled about why people just start writing down their stream of consciousness and just go on and on and on ...

YANBU..

My advice is to not fight their corner. You distance yourself and your Kids, give him a choice of either proper boundaries where your feelings are respected or no effort from
You. He can have as many people pleasing relationships as he wants, but he sure won’t be able to avoid grief of them asking why you aren’t bothered with them or your kids.. IF they are disrespecting you or your kids.

Give us examples so we can help more OP.

i'm not asking for me personally, it's that a lot of threads have mners dealing with the ils, and dc issues, and when they ask for support from dh /dp some of them are too relaxed about the problem, not bothered, don't see a problem when there is a problem to be dealt with ?

From a lot of threads on here, it's clear that not a few Mners are married to men with the emotional intelligence of a toaster, so it may genuinely be the case that they don't see the issue most of time.

boston that makes perfect sense, now i get it .

it's clear that not a few Mners are married to men with the emotional intelligence of a toaster,

true that