DP work issues

[Shoegate]

Hi all,

I’ve NC for this as it isn’t about me so don’t want to risk outing the person.

My DP has worked in his current job for around a year. He cycles to work and so leaves a few bits of clothing at work and some spare trainers. The place he works has a garage so he leaves them in there and had never been told it’s a problem.

The issue is that on 3 occasions now (the latest being today) he has gone to work to fine one of his shoes missing, nowhere to be found. Just one. Each time he’s informed his management to be told he shouldn’t leave his stuff out of his bag (or similar).

So my question is this: putting the issue of whether he should store his stuff at work aside (I certainly wouldn’t be storing stuff there when things have been stolen), does this seem like it is workplace bullying? To me it seems pretty targeted and malicious and I want to encourage him to take it further. I went to drop some more shoes off for him today and he actually seemed pretty upset. So Aibu to suggest complaining and mentioning bullying and whbu to email his boss to raise this formally?

Hope I’ve covered everything, please be gentle, I don’t often start my own threads!

YANBU, but clearly he does need to stop leaving stuff available in the circumstances.

Firstly they should be providing lockers for him to store his things, and secondly, they have a thief on the premises so really need to sort that out.

I left my handbag and sunglasses (designer ones which were a present) in the locked office at work. The sunglasses disappeared and nobody admitted taking them, which left me with a sour taste as it's been one of my workmates who has taken them.

Funnily enough, lockers were made available after I mentioned it to management.

Can work install lockers?

It certainly sounds like bullying to me. Perhaps they think they are being "funny".
YANBU.

Thanks for the feedback. I wanted to check I’m not overreacting.

Lockers are the answer yes. I also think he needs to raise this targeting behaviour with his boss, although I know there’s no way to know who is doing it so probably nothing they can do!

If its a garage, it'll be the guys thinking they are oh so funny.

Op I don't mean to imply that what's happening to your DH stuff is ok. Of course it isn't. But why does he insist on leaving stuff at work when it's repeatedly being stolen and they keep telling him not to? I suspect he's locked in a battle of wills with the thief and both are trying to make a point.

The thing is your DH doesn't have a "right" to store things at work. That's the point the thief seems to be making to him.