To be so upset at wedding photos

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Got married last month and had an amazing day. Loved it. I felt like I looked good on the day (hair and makeup professionally done but still looked like me, but a better than usual version). I told my photographer that I was very sensitive about being photographed as I am not photogenic and asked to avoid certain angles because I don’t have the best jawline.

The photos are in and in most of them I look nice, apart from the ones with DH. Not a single photo with him is nice.

Chins, fucking chins everywhere. From the worst possible angles. I am not ugly (I think) but I look like Shrek in the photos, apart from with other people where I look fine.

There are no photographs of us together that we can use which pisses me off so much as I wanted at least one photograph we could share and also the photographer took us off throughout the day for ‘couples portraits’ and now I wish I had just stayed at the party.

I know I can take a decent photograph as there are loads of me looking ok with everyone apart from my husband.

I promise I am not a bridezilla and our wedding was a small relaxed affair.

Sorry for the lengthy rant but I am just so upset. I don’t cry easily but I have been really tearful this weekend, I am so upset and disappointed.

AIBU that I just wanted one photograph of me and my lovely husband where I don’t look like shit?

The best bit about photos is that look at them 20 years hence and laugh. Laugh at the dated dress, hairstyle, flowers, guest outfits....

I totally get you are not looking great in the photos. Me neither in mine. But honestly after the first year ( or you have paid it off) it will never matter. Also since more than half of marriages fail, if you are one of the unlucky ones you can take it as a sign.

@WoofWoofMooWoof that is very, very kind of you, thank you for that x

What's your husband's view on the photos? Quite possibly one of the 'chins' one could be his favourite!

I feel for you as I am very unphotogenic (surely I am not as ugly as I look in photos!) But with a few years distance I usually realise the photos are nicer than I thought.

You could talk to the photographer though, she may have taken extra ones

Get your photographer to photoshop them?

I would definitely ask if you can go through the RAW files with her, there’s a high chance there’ll be a few that she discounted because of slightly worse other elements like lense softness, etc- where you’ll be happier with the angles.

Or get one of the good shots of you and get someone to photoshop it into a shot with your dh?

OP I was the same. The picture we had framed and still have out 18 years on is one taken by my 9 year old DS rather than a professional one! They are all confined to an album in the back of a cupboard

Where are you based if you don't mind me asking? I might be able to help