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I know I wasn't BU - more of a WWYD

15 replies

winobaglady · 14/07/2019 22:01

Bit of background, DH and I decided 15 odd years ago to try cutting down our carbon footprint. We grow our own veg and some fruit, buy local meat (yes, still meat eaters!), car share with others when possible (specifically to get to work) and only travel by air for 'big' reasons (my 50th, his 50th in 3 years).
We recycle when we can however, we are NOT evangelical. I know there's more we could do and i have recently started buying clothes from charity shops and making them into mine. So far so virtuous, I'm pleased we are trying.

I often take extra fruit and veg to work for others, so they know we grow our own and over the last few weeks I have had some comments about my clothes (I think mostly positive). In the circle at work of 10 - 15, probably 8 know about us not flying much.

Here's what happened at work this week. 2 new people in our team, we were all in the kitchen, chatting and holidays came I. I moved away from the group, to wash up some dishes, but because I knew that one of the ladies would mention my not flying and she's very opinionated and overbearing, sometimes a bit of a bully to others. She once asked me if I thought I was better than everyone else because of our decision.

Of course the lady brought up that WinoBagLady has ethical concerns, blah blah blah and she snorted and laughed. Everyone went quiet, a bit shocked I think. I couldn't help it, but I replied sarcastically "Well obnoxious woman I try to do my bit and it makes me feel better, plus I've never heard you comment negatively when I bring in free fruit and veg". It's all true, I felt a bit bad calling her out in front of everyone, hence - WWYD?

Sorry it's so long. How did that happen?

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Merryoldgoat · 14/07/2019 22:03

I’d have probably been even meaner so you were fine imo.

jaggynettle · 14/07/2019 22:03

She tried to make an arse of you and failed. Well done for sticking up for yourself. I admire your stance!

CalmdownJanet · 14/07/2019 22:07

I'd do nothing. She was happy to make fun out of you and she got egg on her face, fuck her, she deserved it.

I do need to know how it ended though, what was her reaction?

Queenioqueenio · 14/07/2019 22:10

What you said was fine. Serves her right for trying to show you up in front of the new starters.

Tavannach · 14/07/2019 22:10

I'd have called her out too.

Somethingnothing · 14/07/2019 22:11

Go you! Well done for doing your bit. She sounds unpleasant.

winobaglady · 14/07/2019 22:12

I don't know @CalmdownJanet! I put the drying cloth down and left the kitchen area back to my desk. Ignored her for the rest of the week.
Been mulling it over as I have a, work related, meeting with her (and others) in the morning.

I also have some eggs from our girls to take in to the office. Your egg on her face comment reminded me. Smile

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TestingTestingWonTooFree · 14/07/2019 22:13

She was rude. Your reply was fine

OKBobble · 14/07/2019 22:14

Well done. It is the sort of thing I would come up with 3 hours later and wish I had aaid it at the time.

CalmdownJanet · 14/07/2019 22:14

Well while the eggs on her face would be very tempting Grin just go in and act like nothing has happened, be however you usually act, there is no point in dragging it into next week, hopefully now you have called her out publicly she won't do it again

MirandaGoshawk · 14/07/2019 22:16

Hold your head high and act as if nothing has happened, if you have to work with her. Hopefully she will keep her opinions to herself from now on.

user1471449295 · 14/07/2019 22:17

You did the right thing. What was her response?

onalongsabbatical · 14/07/2019 22:35

Good on ya!

SamBeckett · 14/07/2019 22:45

Well done for standing up for yourself , she sounds like she was making a issues out of it to try and get the others on her side but it did not work.
You need to stay professional at work so be polite and work along side her when you have to.
But when you bring in the free stuff I would glower at her if she went near it to make her feel as uncomfortable as possible about taking anything but without actually saying 'you can not have any'

Angech74 · 15/07/2019 14:00

Lol! I think you stood up to her in a totally classy way. Personally, I'd have told her to Fuck Off.

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