Ex ignoring DR's advice on what to feed our DS

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DS has stomach issues where he is very sensitive to certain foods, this is an ongoing problem and is being investigated. The GP said limit sugar and fats and feed him a clean diet.

If he differs from the clean foods he ends up sitting on the toilet for hours with horrendous stomach pains and Diarrhea.

I told ex all about this but he hasn't listened and every time he comes back from seeing him he has got these symptoms.

I asked him what he ate at his dads (he's 6) he said 5 bowls of a sugary cereal (yes 5 bowls), 2 sandwiches, 2 packets of crisps, 2 burgers and an ice cream.

He's been in pain, on the toilet and I'm fuming.

How do I approach this? I'm going to calm down a bit before I make any contact with him but any words of wisdom would really be appreciated.

Does his dad not experience the effects of feeding this food to DS does? Maybe he thinks you're exaggerating. Or maybe he's just a lazy arsehole who can't be bothered to look after his son better. Not that you should have to but could you send DS with acceptable food? Or not send DS at all?

Keep dc home until a judge tells ex how to parent... Obviously you are talking out your arse.
And to an arse it seems.

One of my DD has food intolerances and from a young age I trained her to tell people she couldn’t have certain foods (when not with me), tell your ex there’ll be no more visits until he respects your DS health.

That must be so frustrating. Find him some good information on the internet and send it to him - if it's not coming from you it might make him take it more seriously.

He has had this issue when he has stayed with him before but the majority of the time he suffers when he gets home.

Thank you for your advice, I have spoken to DS about it and he knows not to overindulge and why he has got to limit his foods.

I could ask his Dad to come to the next GP appointment but he shows no interest in our DS outside of the time he has him so I doubt it but I'm going to have to reiterate how important it is. It's horrible seeing him like this and I've had enough.

What sort of parent wants to cause their DC pain? He sounds selfish and horrible. Stop sending DS until he takes this seriously.

is he having him for any longer stretches during the holiday? perhaps if he sees him like this he'll heed it more

Would this help? www.fedup.com.au/factsheets/support-factsheets/divorced-families-and-coping-with-diet