To start dating him?

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In the middle if splitting up with fiancé. We live together, have kids etc.
The relationship has been on its arse for months, years but I kept pressing on, trying to make it work after he was unfaithful. No actual cheating(apparently) but he definitely tried-and I found out.
Anyway, fast forward a few years, and I eventually cracked under the pressure of the complete and utter loneliness, and I kissed someone. I confessed everything, and now we’re splitting up. I ‘just’ need to find a place to live.
The man I kissed is wonderful. He’s attentive, likes me just the way I am, and tells me how beautiful I am. We desperately want to go on a date and get to know eachother better. We laugh constantly when we’re together-I can’t remember the last time me and the ex laughed. He sucked the joy out of almost everything.
My question is, now that I’m single, when can I start to date him? Should there be a period of respectful mourning??

I’d wait till you’re living apart personally.

This was my thought too. It’s been a few weeks now and I’ve not seen the other man out of respect.
I cannot find anywhere to move to! There’s literally nothing available that isn’t in Beirut!

I said to ex that I was willing to try and fix us. But he’s adamant he doesn’t want to(I’m a little relieved that I can finally stop going around in circles!)

Can he move out instead of you? Would that work?

When will kids reside with? It would make sense for them to stay in family home with you surely?

Take your time seeing this other man, getting to know him etc. It would be nice to avoid messy overlap.

Good luck.

Sadly not. It’s me who will have to move as it’s his house and not married

If you’ve split up, I personally would pursue this but quietly and subtly until you can move out.

I started seeing now dh when I was still living in the same house as exh.I moved out shortly after,we had split already just had to live together until I could go.

This is the issue. Ex is grating on me now. Mopping and looking sad. Should have paid me some attention while he had the chance!!

Wait. Otherwise your kids may blame you (and him) for the breakup and your ex may play into it implying that you left him FOR the other man.

Even if he does think that(it’s not the case) I’m past caring what he thinks. I’ve wasted too long treading on eggshells with him

Start seeing him whenever is convenient and safe to do so but do not admit to it while you still.live in tbe same house as soon to be ex. It really isn't worth the hassle. Situations like that never end well.

No I won’t be telling the ex! Imagine!