Dieting when partner constantly eats rubbish

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I'm 5.5 months post partum.. long story short I had very severe PGP, a huge baby, huge appetite, depressed as I was in pain and basically put on a lot of weight. Slim size 8-10 before baby, after baby size 16. I've already lost a lot of weight but I'm trying to get in good shape again - not only about being slim but I worked out a lot before the baby and I want to feel fit and strong.

I'm trying so hard with my diet - eating lots of protein and fresh produce, no crappy snacking or junk food. I'm BFing so trying to eat well balanced with tons of water.

My DP is one of those people where he can eat absolute crap and never put on weight. He hasn't been to the gym in a year and still has a 6 pack. As I'm typing this I've watched him eat 5 large M&S chocolate cookies. We eat dinner then he makes noodles for himself at 9pm. It's so infuriating. I'm trying so hard to eat well and exercise and he is just munching everything in sight. Not so much an AIBU as just a rant about how unfair it is!!!!

It will catch up to him op. My dh used to be like yours, then he hit 37 and put 2 stone on in six months.

I know what you mean; to lose weight all my DH has to do is cut out crisps or similar for a couple of weeks and he’s sorted whereas for me it’s a real challenge and I struggle with the willpower.

Even if he never puts on weight, eating loads of crap is not healthy for him. Think of health as well as weight loss - but I know it’s frustrating!

My DH is like that. He's really tall and I've got a tiny build. I eat half his portion size, literally. Sympathies. Could you ask him to eat his snacks in a different room maybe? Or is that rude? Depends on your relationship I guess.

@PoptartPoptart - oh I totally agree. It's as much about health for me as size- I like eating fresh fruit and veg and eating well. It's just annoying. 🙄

He has 7% body fat - I think he is an alien 👽

@gotmychocolateimgood I asked him to stop buying crap that's in the house as it's not fair if there are delicious biscuits I can't eat! Especially when I'm home a lot. His work have loads of free food so he can eat what he likes there! Away from me 😂

Mine is also the same and can eat whatever he wants and doesn’t even get bloated. I eat one big meal and I literally gain a pound. I’m trying to diet at the moment but it’s so difficult when he has crisps, cake and choc etc in the house for himself

Protein is great - but you should get enough in a normal diet. Too much protein and you will put on weight.

Ensure you have healthier snack options for you

Personally I like
Banana chips
Pumpkin seeds
Carrots and hummus
Malt loaf
Low ingredient breakfast bars (like the naked bars or similar oat bars)
If it's the sweet fix you're looking for how about those caramel oat cakes - not exactly healthy but better ingredients than a packet of digestives

If that doesn't help allow yourself some snacks that aren't healthy and limit what you have and as time goes by it's easier

Thank you, I am within the recommended protein amounts and I have graze snacks if I ever need them so I know the calorie amount - my diet is really good I think. Just irritating my partner scoffs all this rubbish and is so slim 🙄

He might need bigger portions and more feeling food if he needs to make himself another diner 1 hour or 2 after the first one.

You could ask him to keep the snacks out of your sight!

To be honest I wouldn't feel envious of him at all. You say he's eating rubbish, well I genuinely wouldn't want to eat 5 cookies. I'd feel horrible. I'd much prefer to eat healthy food. Not to look good but to feel good.