Losing weight

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My weight can go up and down, particularly down when I'm suffering with ill mental health and since struggling with things that might have been really bad news this year, for once things are all going well. BUT, I've calmed down, enjoyed things a bit more, over indulged and put on weight.

I've slowly been trying to manage this back down and make sensible choices, as I don't want it to become an issue. I've lost a few pounds. I don't want to look as skinny as I have been when really down and anxious. The problem is, I think DH does.

He's actually googled 'how to tell my wife she needs to lose weight'! Aibu in thinking he's out of order? I don't need 'telling'. And I don't actually 'need' to lose any weight!
My bmi has been as low as 19 for long periods of time, but it's more like 23 now.

Is he just used to seeing me almost underweight?

He's concerned, and he's been looking at way to approach you. What's wrong with that?

I wouldn't let my DH get overweight to be honest.

You need to discuss that your HEALTHY and normal weight is. Do you think you have the perfect weight now? If you are not happy, have your DH heard you complaining about your body?
There are so many women who complain about being fat, but become offended if their DH dares try to help out.

Telling someone that they look great when you don't think they do is not helping. Nothing to do with loving someone regardless of their shape bladibla.

He's concerned, and he's been looking at way to approach you. What's wrong with that?

I'm just not sure what he's got to be concerned about from a health perspective, as my current weight is fine. He was never encouraging me to put on weight when I might have needed that!

I don't want to put on more weight, as I haven't actively been trying to and want a happy medium. But I haven't actually discussed this with him - just started being more careful. So he can't have noticed me making the right choices if he thinks I need telling.

if you think you need to be more careful, you are not 100% with your current weight, which is fine. He might have picked on that.

or he does think your underweight body is the target one, and you need to discuss with him that it really is not.

It's impossible to judge based on a paragraph, no one knows how your DH is, supportive, loving, if appearance are very important to him. You probably know, no poster will.

He's bang out of order, your weight is none of his business and you sound perfectly within normal health weight range.

Does dh have an almost underweight bmi himself? I'm assuming not.

If you are happy and healthy as you are then that's all that matters. I don't even think it warrants a conversation with him, you don't need HIS approval when it comes YOUR body and if he doesn't like it then that's his problem. Don't go making yourself ill for anyone x

because none of the poster would ever make a comment about their own partner's body, would they...

I think your DH is on this thread OP?

No other sane person hearing that your BMI is 23 would say; “maybe he is just trying to help”.

If it’s not your DH then Facepalm is as bad as your DH and I wouldn’t listen to any of their advice.

If you feel you are happy with your weight just eat healthily and be happy and tell DH you are happy as you are.

Does dh have an almost underweight bmi himself? I'm assuming not.

He's perfectly healthy, but openly trying to lose some weight himself as he thinks this will be beneficial to the sports he does.

He's actually just brought domino's pizza home, so I don't have a clue what's going on with him.