Long story short .. we are a family of 5 and we brought a house in May, it needs total renovation as its very dated .. but with a professional deep clean we could just about live in it. We have been living with ILs since March. We have the house plans drawn up but no builder/start date/builder contract or agreement - that's an entire other thread.
H doesn't want to move in until the house is completed but goodness knows when that will be as the planned works are 3 months and its not even got a start date yet. I can no longer stand not having my own front door or living with my ILs, as it feels like we are in a bed sit, or having all our stuff piled up around us. I'm at breaking point and feel on the verge of a breakdown. The children hate living at ILs too - they are bored with only their very minimal things at ILs, all their stuff (and ours) is in storage. AIBU to want to move into the house and say the works can happen around us ? or do we carry on 'squatting' at ILs ? just to add context, at ILs we have our own rooms and a separate wing of the house but w have to share kitchen and living room. we have been given a beer fridge by ILs to use as our fridge - for 5 of us.
We tiptoe around ILs, they tiptoe around us. We have totally separate ideas/ways of living, i cant have a bath as FIL does believe in the water usage a bath warrants. He checks the water bath levels when i ruin the bath for our son. We pay our share of the bills.