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AIBU to give my dc 10 things to do over holidays

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Namechangedtoprotect · 14/07/2019 10:27

My DT are ten. This is the first summer holiday I am having with them for six weeks as I'm not working.
I've come up with ten things they must do each morning before screen's. Things like brush teeth, get dressed, ten mins reading etc plus specific things like music practice for one and stretching for the other depending on their needs. They are also writing me a ten point list before I play on my phone. Will this help me stay organised and on track or is it madness. I don't want 6 weeks of reminding them to do basic things.

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SnowsInWater · 14/07/2019 10:29

Sounds sensible to me.

swissmilk · 14/07/2019 10:30

Can you give them a reward, like a special day out or a game they want as a 'reward' at the end?
I'm guessing you are going to print off a chart they can tick off?

swissmilk · 14/07/2019 10:31

I mean that a reward will help motivate them, and hopefully turn it into a challenge rather than a chore?

Namechangedtoprotect · 14/07/2019 10:36

We're going on holiday at the end of the six weeks so maybe can tie something in with that. Also loving the idea of a tick chart, means I can track what they are doing.

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GeorgiaGirl52 · 14/07/2019 10:58

That's a great idea but it doesn't need to be tied to a reward. You do things because they need to be done.
The "reward" for brushing your teeth is fresh breath and no cavities.
The "reward" for reading or music lessons is improving in those areas.
This teaches internal self-motivation rather than external reward motivation.
My son is 16 and he gets a ten item list every weekend of household things that need to be done before he "logs on" or "hangs out". Not for reward or payment, just the responsibility of being part of the family.

TeenTimesTwo · 14/07/2019 11:02

YANBU.

I think some structure in the holidays is helpful for adults and children alike, and then they appreciate it all the more on the times you relax it.

Though I suspect it depends on the adults as some prefer more 'freeflow'.

starzig · 14/07/2019 11:34

I would maybe introduce a couple of 'days off' too. It's nice to relax and chill during your holidays too.

Obviouspretzel · 14/07/2019 11:43

I like how you also have a list - feel like that will help your kids have a lot more respect for the process.

swissmilk · 14/07/2019 13:40

I totally agree Georgia but I was thinking it might help with the problem of having to remind/nag.
I think it depends a lot on the maturity/concentration etc skills of the individual child.

Pinktinker · 14/07/2019 14:00

Fantastic idea, I think I shall do the same. The summer holidays are so very long, it’s easy to slip into bad habits and by the time term starts again it can be a shock to their system.

stucknoue · 14/07/2019 14:07

Sounds good. I would suggest a chore a day and a physical activity each day.

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