To hate when people ask this Question

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Does it make you broody?
Whenever I'm holding a Baby.
Yes it makes Me broody, I've been broody for 13 Long Months during which time DH and I have been trying, and failing, at trying to conceive. Yes it makes me broody considering it was just 4 Weeks ago when I miscarried at 8 Weeks. Yes I would desperately like a precious Baby but it doesn't seem to be working out that way for us and it makes me miserable every. bloody. single. day.
Appreciate this particular person may not mean any harm and if they knew I'd like to think they wouldn't ask every time I see them them but I hate the question, I find myself lying about why I'm not pregnant or planning a child, when that couldn't be further from the truth.
AIBU to tell said person to feck off next time? 😤

Yanbu, me and dp in same ish position as you. Stop Asking me fucking questions abour having babies! If I wanted you to know, you already would so stfu and sit down!

I'm sorry for your loss. Some people just don't think about what they are saying and that we all have stuff going on that isn't visible or that we don't necessarily talk about. Sounds like this is a person you are in contact with frequently so you might have to put up with it unless you are able to avoid them, or allude to the fact that it's a difficult subject for you. Good luck for the future.

You need to find your joy in children. Turn it around. Why must you become defensive? Yes is destroying when you loose a beloved baby, but most women will. The women you re talking about probably understands your feelings more than your husband.

So yes, you are broody but just say it hasn't worked out for you yet and you are hopefull.

My best friend tried for10 years before lucking out. No miscarriages. Now she's a mum of 2. I tried over a period of 10 years. 3 late miscarriages, 2 early miscarriagesand 3 kids at last.

Keep going!

YANBU

YANBU
I’ve been there
It’s shit

@Wodkavodka It's my Brother in law, he absolutely does not understand my feelings more than my Husband.

I've been there too hun it's horrible!
We tried for 7 loooong years for my little miracle and I'm now expecting no2... no advice on your friend but I just want to send you a virtual hug, you will get there you just have to take a longer route sometimes to get to that special place, keep at it and be kind to yourself 💐
And I'm so sorry to hear of your loss xx

wodkavodka has it - good advice.

But if it's your BIL, tell him to find another line in conversation as you can't answer the same question over and over again.

Some people have the sensitivity of a rhino's backside.

You could reply with a stony face "No. I hate all babies".

YWBU to tell someone to fuck off, yes. As someone who has been through two miscarriages, I really do understand how you feel but you can't expect babies and pregnancy to be a taboo subject, or expect others not to find joy in babies.

I'm sure the person would be upset if they knew they had upset you. It's not such a direct remark as for instance "how come you don't have a baby yet?" which certainly does cross boundaries.

I was prepared for it to not work out, it took my parents 16 years!

So when FIL came out with the 'waiting for grandkids' shit I just told him the truth, that we were trying and it would be best to STFU about it form here on in unless he wanted to piss me right off. (Probably didn't help that he's DH's mum's second husband and has no children, so no clue)

sorry for you loss OP.

@CalamityJune Honestly, I'd never tell anyone to f*#k off in my life - I work with Babies and Toddlers so it's not a taboo subject at all and I would never expect it to be, especially as we're not vocal with other struggles, I'm just having a grouchy moment and ranting.

@sneakypinky Ha! Love that

Just do what I did on several occasions & tell them yes it does Make me broody but as I’ve just had another miscarriage there isn’t much I can do. Always shut them up. And made them think.

I'd like to think they don't mean any harm, people just don't think op. Yanbu