AIBU to think DD has ADHD

[Auiti]

OK shes 12
Shes done 3 hours of comp grade gymnastics TODAY so maybe a bit tired by now?
Er no she loves tennis also.
and the last 1 1/2 hours she has being wacking tennis balls on the house walls, practising.

Come school days, she is clueless as to were her Uniform is even though its been washed and given to her.

She loses everything thats given to her, despite being VERY intelligent.

Im so worried.

I hope I don't sound patronising by saying I think that's normal, it's parenting guilt on overdrive trying to work out what's best and fearing you're doing the worst. Are there any local groups about where you could talk with someone going through the same thing?

OP, she sounds just like my son :) It's exhausting having a child who is so 'on-the-go' (and my gorgeous son also does not stop talking from dawn til dusk!!!) But at the end of the day, not sure if an ADHD label would really be that helpful.

My son swims 5 times a week, plays football, does martial arts, runs, cycles, does athletics! All these sports (especially the swimming) seem to help him manage his energy. I wouldnt want him to take any meds. sounds like your dd loves sport too. Maybe keep encouraging that, let her be herself, and when she's a lot older if she wants a diagnosis for any reason, you can chat through it with her.

@Justanotherlurker

Boys typically get diagnosed much earlier than girls

My dd was diagnosed with ASD and ADD at 14

Parents deal with diagnosis in all manner of ways -I understand you are feeling quite raw -but everyone can reach out sometimes and even if it may seem tongue in cheek or their challenges not as big as your own child's, they still need help

Hi Auiti,

I'm a (very) long-time lurker but I had to sign up so that I could reply to this one...

There have been a lot of very unhelpful comments on this thread.

I'm 31, and in the past year I've realised I probably have ADHD... You might wonder how it could have been missed if that's the case, but actually girls are underdiagnosed, since it presents differently for girls (the stereotype is hyperactivity, even though not everyone with ADHD even has this!). Apparently a lot of adults are now also being diagnosed after their kids.

Lack of focus may be one of the stereotypes but I will sometimes also hyperfocus to the point where I've forgotten to eat.

ADHD does exist, it can't be cured as such, but there are definitely treatment options available (not just drugs either, but also things like coping strategies which I think would have really helped me as a kid!) so I think it's definitely worth seeking a diagnosis in case your daughter has it.

There's a great YouTube channel called 'How to ADHD'. Another good resource online is ADDitude.

I hope those help. Good luck, OP!

Just to be clear though, I don't think we can tell you whether your daughter is likely to have ADHD with so little information. The best thing to do if you're concerned is do some reading, and go and talk to a specialist if you're concerned.

One last thing...

You said she's already diagnosed with aspergers.

"What’s the Relationship Between ADHD and Autism?

Roughly two-thirds of children with attention deficit disorder (ADHD or ADD) have at least one co-existing condition, and autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is among the conditions that commonly occur with ADHD. Some studies suggest that up to half of kids with ASD also have ADHD."

www.additudemag.com/is-it-adhd-or-asd/

Op . I also suggest you ask for it to be moved to sn’s . You won’t get as many responses but far less who really don’t understand adhd and expect everyone to fit the stereotype .

Adhd and Asd are often co morbid .

Do google symptoms for girls and adhd they more commonly mask and are inattentive.

Not a label I'd be seeking. What difference would it make? Surely you don't want her medicated?

Congratulations - you win most ignorant comment on this thread despite strong competition.