I am good friends with one of the female directors at my place of work. We have been out a few times together, text regularly and have lots of chats throughout the day. I am also her secretary.
I made a mistake a few weeks ago, apologised and fixed my error. I spoke to her later on that day and she was a bit off with me, wouldn’t look at me when I was speaking to her and was acting weirdly. I was concerned that I must have made a bigger mistake than I thought even though it had been all sorted out. Next day I was really unsure how to act with her, I kept quiet, got on with my work and didn’t chat the way I normally would. She then texted me to ask if I was ok, I replied yes just busy. I was then told by another employee that she had told another director that I was an employee and she was the boss, she was entitled to give me into bother. I have never disputed that, and am the first to admit I have made a mistake and try my best to fix it. She was then back to her normal self chatting away and being very friendly. I was pleasant when speaking to her and did my work but I wasn’t extremely friendly as I used to be. I felt we had a good friendship and were able to tell one another if there was any issues. She always said I was to tell her if she was acting too big for her boots. She then deleted me from fb. I asked her regarding this and she went mental. She said I blocked her on fb (untrue). I mentioned the comment she made, she stood up and was screaming at me, pointing her finger at me and accusing me of lying! I walked away and said I wasn’t being spoken to like that.
Next day she said she wouldn’t apologise for the way she had acted, but could things be put behind us and we could carry on as we were. Things are now extremely awkward between us, she doesn’t tell me anything about work etc, I have to find out from others (bit shit when I am her secretary and last to know), and everything is dealt with by email. I used to love my job and now hate it as there is a horrible atmosphere.
Sorry for the long post, point of this is that I have been on holiday for 2 weeks, she is now going on holiday for 2 weeks, I have friend requested her on fb and she won’t accept it, do I send her a text saying have a lovely holiday or do I just leave it? Does it look like she has made it quite clear she doesn’t want to be friends again, or do I make the first move and see if we can get our friendship back?