Aibu to ask/demand baby dad to be there?

[Mum2girl2015]

Our daughter is 10 months old with dietary requirements where she has CMPA and has been referred to a dietician as she’s not eating solids properly due to lateness of sorting out her original weight loss and milk intake. Aibu asking or even demanding that her dad come along to that appointment so I’m not having to relay information to him? I told him yesterday that an appointment has come through for next Friday so a weeks notice and he’s refusing to book this off or even tell his work about it. He gets his shifts weekly so he does different every week. I’m peeved because originally he said he would come and has now changed his mind choosing to work instead. Any views on what I should possibly do as he needs to know everything as he has her now every other weekend.

Having had umpteen medical appointments for one of my DC I really wouldn’t have been comfortable not getting to speak to the HCP myself. Getting the information second hand from a partner I had a good relationship with would suffice if I had no option but to miss the appointment but I certainly wouldn’t trust I had all the information i needed from an ex partner. (No offence to Op but relationships sour once separated) if he is any way interested in his child’s health he would be at the appointment. His apathy to this is probably a very big indicator of his attitude to parenting in general and in OPs shoes I would be worried that even if she passed on the letter he wouldn’t bother following the plan. Sitting in the meeting, hearing all the concerns, results and diet plan from the medical professional (as opposed to your ex who you don’t like) will stand a far better chance of him realising it’s serious and taking on board the information properly. Rather than it being something his ex is telling him to do.

Sounds like if he made an error and she was poorly he would accuse and blame you, is that right? He bloody well needs to be there then.