DH handwashing

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This sounds ridiculous already... I switched to using bar soap a while back but have noticed the liquid soap still in the bathroom is not being used up and the bar is always dry when I come to use it so basically there is only me washing my hands with soap. Two nights ago I asked my DH did he not like the liquid soap and he got stroppy. So last night when I saw him barely wet his hands when ‘washing’ them he got annoyed again. He thinks its fine washing the tips of your fingers under running water for a second.
Now we’ve been together 18 years so this isn’t new and he’s probably done this all his life so aibu or is he?

He's being totally unreasonable. Some people's hygiene standards are pretty low. I know several people at work who never wash their hands it's pretty disgusting.

The problem I see here it's not that his standards are low, seems like they are, but what are you really going to be able to do about it? He's an adult, you can't make him wash his hands.

True duds I can’t make him wash his hands. So am I just supposed to live with it and never mention it again? He’s still moody today about it but giving me the cold shoulder rather than just having a straight conversation!

I’m so annoyed about it. If the kids were being so lazy washing their hands I’m sure we would both pick them up on it. What’s wrong with taking a minute to actually use soap and water??

No idea but he's obviously sensitive if he's getting stroppy about it. If he doesn't wash his hands properly it's an health issue.

Seems a bit of an over-reaction on his part! Why on earth is he being so mardy? Probs cos he knows he's in the wrong and it's wrong to not wash the filth and sink off his hands after using the loo. Bleurgh. 🤮

Yuk.

Stink. Obvs.

I wouldn't know what to do about it either. It would effect how I felt about him cooking, touching me... is there a way of having the conversation that emphasises these points in a way that doesn't message him irrationally defensive?

Yuck! That’s disgusting. He’ll be spreading his weezy hands all over his work keyboard 🤮🤮

I don't think that what you're saying is ridiculous at all, and I agree with the other posters. Is your DH always so nasty when you 'challenge' him about something?

I saw a man use the loo yesterday, not wash his hands and then go straight into a meeting where he shook hands with st least 6 people

My DH did exactly this. Would go for a piss and not wash his hands. Fucking disgusting. I challenged him and he got stroppy too - as op said, probably because he's in the wrong and knows it. He is a hand washer now

I was once in the Ladies with a colleague at work. She came out of the cubicle, bypassed the sink and I saw her eating a big sandwich one moment later in the office.

Weirdly I heard him get up to the loo in the night and wash his hands properly then? (Heard hand wash pump squeak!). He washes his hands before cooking and the kitchen soap does seem to get used I think

Do you ask the man to wash his Willy before you have oral sex with him? Cos I sure as hell don't ask mine. I woukd say that transfers more 'germs' than a man who's held it for a piss.

Hm, I can see why you asked the question about the bar and liquid soap. SO he washes his hands sometimes... wonderful that he does so before cooking. Maybe he's doing it when he thinks you're not watching? I.e. he knows he should just didn't want to do it in response to him thinking he was being told off, as it were?

He’s commented when he’s seen other people not wash their hands so this whole thing baffles me. He obviously thinks a quick wee doesn’t warrant a full hand wash!