Coping with it all

[MrsBagans]

I sometimes feel when I am feeling tired or anxious about issues with my children (which seem to be weekly) that I should be able to cope better. That other people have it way worse than I do and they cope better, that I must be rubbish at being a mum, partner, person.
I want to do better, be better, have more energy and patience. Be a more fun mum, cleverer, encouraging but really I flailing in the wind and I do not know what to do, what is right, why I can’t do it all, why I have no energy to do more.
I can’t be alone I know, but I do feel it.
How do you all manage to cope?
How come an issue with your child doesn’t stop you in your tracks and leave you unable to function normally?
Why am I rubbish at this?

We all feel like this at times op, I'm sure you're doing great.

I've had a terrible day today, felt like a lousy mother!

I just feel like it so regularly tho..

Me too. I've just had 3 weeks off in between roles, that has coincided with 2 weeks school holidays.

The difference in not working me V's stressed trying to juggle it all me is pretty stark.

My next role is FT 3 month contract that starts this week This might have to be my last FT role for a while.

I have felt like this a lot in the past and sometimes now.
I have low self esteem, anxiety and depression, lifelong. I take meds which help and am currently waiting for CBT.
For me, a lot of it is hormonal. For the first 18 days of my cycle, I'm ok. The other 10 days are awful.
What works for me is lowering expectations and telling myself there's nothing inherently wrong with me as a person.
I have a basic routine set up of things I want to do daily and I complete it almost every day. It's really just the basics. I find being able to stick to that gives a better outcome than some days running myself ragged and some days doing bugger all. If my basic list is done and I don't feel good, it's ok to relax and look after myself.