To think my DH wants a "Yes" wife

[LovinglyLiberal]

I've noticed this before about DH but it's really started to piss me off lately. DH HATES it when my opinion is different to his. He gets all dramatic and says things like "Oh Iiterally can't say anything" but what he actually means is "I can't get you to agree with my opinion"

For example, I will say "I don't agree with everyone being kept in for break at DDs school when only a handful were misbehaving" and he will say something like "They need to be taught discipline". I then say "Fair enough but the ones that deserve it"

DH will then have a massive hissy fit and act like he's a victim and I'm just saying stuff to get at him! It's not even always big things as you've just read. I've also noticed if I've heard something or seen something I don't agree with and voice my opinion he'll roll his eyes or pipe up and say "God sakes you're so liberal"

What does he want from me?? Should I just be keeping my trap shut? AIBU or is he?

YANBU

I’m going to get flamed BUT... do you do this a lot without noticing? Because I realised I was doing this when I was getting pissed off with DP “always” having to argue with me... 😬😬😬

Obviously if not then YANBU!!

Yanbu. Is he trying to condition you into never disagreeing with him? Or is he one of those people who take a difference of opinion as a personal criticism?

DH is like this.

I say no and contradict him just for laughs now

Yanbu (I also cant stand whole class punishments when the same few misbehave its not right)

@redexpat I can't actually decide!

@user1473878824 I try not too but you can't help it if you think differently to someone else lol

@PinkCrayon I agree!

My DP always has a different opinion to me. Always!

If I said pink was pink, he’d say it was blue!

I don’t give my opinion anymore, I switch off when he’s talking and nod at the appropriate time.

Start dropping mangled Handmaid's Tale quotes when he kicks off

Blessed be the eye
Under his fruit
May your bowels open

@Malibucyprus should you have to though
??

@iklboo he'd be too busy playing the worlds smallest violin to hear

No you shouldn't have to keep your opinion to yourself. I can't imagine anything more annoying. I couldn't live like that.

If they can't discuss things properly maybe they need some sort of workshop or something.

Suggest it next time.

@LovinglyLiberal no, I shouldn’t have to, but I just got fed up of arguing over stupid things.

I can be quite opinionated, I know that, but I’m always open to others. Whereas DP is just an arsehole that likes to disagree with me.

I'd quite like to have this problem. My husband sometimes actually asks me what he should think about a subject. He always asks me who/what he should vote for. It makes me feel...stabby.

Interesting, I have just realised , reading this, that if I disagree with DH we will knock it back and forth a couple of times, fairly lightheartedly, but then he shuts it down by saying I don't want to get into an argument over this.

Yes, I sometimes disagree with DH and he has asked me, “Why do you persist in assassinating my character.” Assassinating! This could be about some weeds in the garden.

@Zaeem5 I know! My DH is the same!

@Hadalifeonce I'd we can't agree I'd rather DH just said "OK, we'll agree to disagree" and to be fair to me, I would never say "You're wrong" I will also say "Fair enough but I don't agree"

@DontDribbleOnTheCarpet My eldest DD does this! It'd drive me nuts if DH was like that too. I think each partner should say what they feel but calmly obviously.

All men want a yes woman, opinions are discouraged.

I also cant stand whole class punishments when the same few misbehave its not right

It works though. They did it at my school, and the innocent ones that were punished were so angry with the misbehavors, they used to beat the living crap out of them afterwards.

Certainly was effective in minimising future trouble. (but I did go to a very rough inner London school)

YANBU, sounds like an annoying gaslighting prick. He’s setting the scene for making out like you’re always so aggressive and dramatic, and he’s just a poor henpecked wretch of a man.

@QueenofPain He does try and make me out to be the villain quite often! You should see me, I'm life 5ft nothing and laid back as anything!!