There’s a posh thread, a common thread, but what makes a person classy?

[Singlebutmarried]

You can have class whether posh or common.

I can’t be relied on not to burp (by accident) socrherefore class passes me by 😂

Being able to address difficult subjects without offending anyone but while staying ethical. A skill that entirely passes me by.

Being able to keep alcohol in the house without drinking it. I can do this.

Not looking hot and sweaty. Nope.

Being friendly to everyone without being a mug. Somewhat.

Being kind and considerate and polite to absolutely everyone.

Not talking about class?

Being well-spoken in whatever regional accent you have.
Not dropping letters, or dropping in wrong words / wrong tenses.
Not being shouty and loud, not swearing loads.

Manners

Classic clothing

No overt displays of emotion

Well groomed

Being able to put people at their ease, and talk about things that interest them, with people of all ages.

Being able to gloss over awkward situations in a way that enables a person who has made a mahoosive blunder not sink through the floor.

Diplomacy

I went on a v. rough boat trip - friend on the boat managed to be sick over the side of the boat without anyone noticing. That's classy.

I've thought of one. I was shown around two homeless shelters by two separate men. The first, treated people differently. Not classy. The second, I had no idea who was a client, psychologist, worker or visitor. He introduced them all warmly and using their name. "Terry this is Brian. How are you Brian, I haven't seen yo in ages" type of thing to everyone. Pure class.

”Being well-spoken in whatever regional accent you have....Not dropping letters”

Not possible to do both, not in my accent anyway. Guess that means I’m not classy

Never make anyone feel stupid and be polite to everyone, even those who don't deserve it. I can do the first but sometime struggle with the second if someone is an arse 😬

Spontaneous, unflash generosity
Graciousness with everyone they meet
Good grooming in any style that suits them

When holding Fort, giving eye contact to everyone in the group, not just the ones you like.
Not engaging in malicious gossip.

Being inclusive, rather than cliquey, and welcoming to new and nervous people.