My tiredness is making me moody

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I’m 21 weeks pregnant with twins and have a 6 yo DD (not with her dad)

I live with my partner and he works shifts...I am off work for summer so getting to spend lots of time with DD. Her dad sees her once a week (sometimes overnight other times just a few hours). I am exhausted DD gets up at 7am and I spend the day making sure she doesn’t get bored. This week I have taken my sisters kids out with us four days and the one day I asked my sister Cpuld she take dd for an hour or two she said no. My partner ‘thinks’ he helps but he doesn’t really. He’s been working all week and this weekend he is doing his hobby both days. It starts early ends late. I’m just so tired and I’m taking my mood out on him. I can’t ask him not to do his hobby to mind DD for a few hours as she isn’t his and I know he wouldn’t do it anyway. I’m so sore today and he rang on his break and I was snappy with him, which has now caused him to text and say how difficult I am to be with atm any tips to get some energy ladies??

Hobby all weekend? Is this regular? He needs to help and give you some rest !!! Get your feet up x

Your DD may not be his, but he lives with you both as a family.
You are also carrying HIS twins! Time he stepped up.
My husband was useless until I was probably about 8 months and was getting big, but I didn't have a child to look after

He doesn’t understand why I’m so irritated by him he has been annoyed because I haven’t been up for having sex as much I have told him he’s doing well having sex twice or three times a week. But he wants everyday I honestly can’t manage it. His hobby is non negotiable but I feel like I will explode this weekend and I can’t be bothered being told how awful I am again

My god! I probably had sex four times in pregnancy, including once in the Maldives and once on our wedding night.
Your fella doesn't know he's born!!

I just do it to save an argument about it u cannot be arsed tbh

Once twins are here his hobby is going to have to be negotiable. You do not pick and choose when to parent your dc and its about time he realised that. On everything else hes being an utter knob, As is your sister!

You poor thing! What about when the twins come along? Will he still be doing his all weekend hobby then?
I think you have every right to feel tired and fed up. I also think it's very sad you don't feel like you can ask him to help with DD cos she's not his. Your DD came as a package together and if you're going to be a family it should be a family of 5 not 4 + 1 cos she's not biologically his.
As for tips on tiredness is there a holiday club nearby for DD, just for a couple of hours? Our local sports centre runs one. I know she's still young but even a few hours a week would help. Long term though, your partner really needs to step up and get his priorities right. And as for daily sex??!!! - he really is taking the piss. Tell him you only feel like sex Saturday and Sundays during the day - oh wait, sorry, hobby time, never mind!

First of all, your DD is allowed to be bored - let her play with her toys, use her imagination, have a duvet day on the sofa and watch a movie with popcorn. You don't HAVE to constantly be doing something.

Stop taking your sisters kids out so much, maybe once a week - and only if it is reciprocated.

You certainly CAN ask him to take DD off your hands for a while, she's now a part of his family and he should be treating her as his own.

The holiday clubs round here are all booked up I rang round this week. I had planned to put her in some but my family told me not to waste the money and they would help me out with her...don’t know why I listened.

I know I’d i ask him not to do his hobby he will
Still go and that will make me
Annoyed and then it’ll cause an argument

So will he be doing his hobby all weekend when twins come along or just leave you with all 3 all weekend?
Shame about the holiday clubs .