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exH broken consent order

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Deeks · 12/07/2019 11:30

Me and my ex husband have a consent order in our divorce which has been agreed and stamped by the courts. The agreement is he is to pay 50% of the mortgage of the family home (home is in both our names) since he willingly chose to walk out on me and the kids.

He isn't sticking to this. He should be giving me £225 and is now giving me £80 which isn't half. He has broken the consent order.

I am using my benefits to scrape by. Can any one advise what is the best way forward with this one? Thank you

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MyOpinionIsValid · 12/07/2019 11:31

Go back to court

Deeks · 12/07/2019 12:18

Bit hard with a low income but thank you.

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Nesssie · 12/07/2019 12:20

Your income is only going to get lower if you don't take him to court and get the money he owes you.
Can you self represent? Shouldn't be hard if he has clearly broken an exiting order.

PicsInRed · 12/07/2019 12:22

With the widespread removal of legal aid, self representation is very, very common and Judges are sympathetic and accommodating.

Have you considered self representing? You could get a McKenzie friend for support and to take notes.

Was there domestic violence? You may be eligible for legal aid if you are getting by on benefits and your assets are low enough in value.

Fridaycantsleepdoh1 · 12/07/2019 12:23

You will have to take him back to court Op there isn’t any other option.
Does he pay maintenance too? Make sure you are getting what you should be through CMS.
How long does he have to pay half the mortgage for?

Fridaycantsleepdoh1 · 12/07/2019 12:24

What if a consent order is breached?
If one or both parties breach a consent order by failing to carry out obligations such as paying maintenance, then the order can be enforced.

Consent orders are approved by courts, so a breach of one is effectively a breach of a court order - something that courts look very unfavourably upon. Unless there is a good reason for breaking the agreement, the person would be liable to fulfil his or her responsibilities immediately.

Reporting a breach
It is good practice to send a warning letter to your ex-huband or ex-wife before you report a breach so that you provide him or her with an opportunity to meet his or her responsibilities. Doing so strengthens your position as a reasonable and fair person.

If your ex-spouse does not respond, you can report the breach to the court using a D11 form.

You might consider obtaining help from a solicitor in completing this form. On it, you state that you think the order may have been breached, and that you would like it to be enforced.

At the same time you send the form to the court, you should send a copy to the other party so he or she is aware that he or she is likely to face court action.

Who pays?
If the case is seen in court, then the party who has initiated the case pays the fees.

If the court finds that there has been a breach, then the person who has broken the order will have to cover the court costs and any solicitor fees of both sides.

Either party may represent himself or herself, or hire solicitors to do so.

If the court agrees that there has been a breach
In most cases, if there has been a breach, the consent order will be enforced by the court.

The person who has made the breach will be required to pay the money owed or carry out the task given to him or her (for example, subscribing for medical insurance for the other) within a certain period of time.

If he or she fails to do so, the court order will be broken, which is punishable by a fine or even prison.

When a breach won't be enforced
There are some circumstances, however, in which the person breaching the order may not be asked to meet their responsibilities.

This is usually the case if circumstances have changed materially (just like supervening events that we discuss below).

For example, if an ex-husband is unable to pay maintenance because he has been made redundant and does not have the money, then the court is likely to allow him to stop payment until he finds new employment. Such a ruling would be written into the consent order.

Since whether or not an order would be enforced depends on the circumstances, it is often best to seek the advice of a solicitor to clarify whether you are likely to obtain the outcome you want.

Deeks · 12/07/2019 13:06

Thank you all so much. I guess I can represent myself. He signed the draft 3 times and then the final copy and he agreed to pay half for the kids. In April the child maintenance went up because he is in a very high paying job therefore he is using that as an excuse and hes cut paying his half of the mortgage.

He wasn't physically abusive but I divorced him on grounds of unreasonable behaviour.

I have spoken to him a few times and pleaded that I cant afford this house on my own on benefits but he continues to laugh in my face as he wants me and the kids to move out so he can get half the house.

I will look into taking him to court. Thanks everyone

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ZillaPilla · 12/07/2019 13:38

The agreement is he is to pay 50% of the mortgage of the family home (home is in both our names) since he willingly chose to walk out on me and the kids.

The agreement to pay 50% will have been based on the needs of the children to be housed, depending on which parent they mainly live with etc, NOT because he chose to leave.

Deeks · 12/07/2019 19:22

ZillaPilla - regarless of him leaving he signed the agree to pay 50%. Bottle line.

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