Is it WEIRD of me?

[BellyAching19]

I go to a male orientated sport. Sometimes one other woman goes but most of the time I’m the only woman there.

After class they all like to go to pub. The other woman goes (if she’s at the class) but her husband is part of the class so they go together. On a few occasions I have gone also.

Last night I was the only woman there. They asked if I was going. Turned out to be 2 blokes and me. Should I not have gone? Was I “in the way” of two blokes that wanted to go and have a pint?

I have aspergers so I don’t know what’s normal and what’s just a bit “off”.

If they asked you if you were going for the drink, then they were happy for you to be there, I think! Don't worry about it, they were probably pleased to have your company :)

I think it would be weird of you to exclude yourself based on your genitals.

I think they were just making sure that enough people were interested in going to the pub after, as there were only two guys going.

It sounds like they like you and you are an important part of the group /team. I think men are pretty black or white, if they didn't want you to go they wouldn't have asked.
You sound nice. Enjoy yourself.

Nit weird in the slightest.

NOT weird!

I disagree because I think if they had any manners at all they would have asked you whether they wanted you there really or not. It would be rude and unkind to exclude you.

Only you know if they liked having you there. If there were only two of them and they were friends it would definitely have changed the dynamics of their pub visit but that could be a good thing. Going to the pub afterwards helps to deepen your relationships with them and make proper friends. Or can do anyway.

Personally I dislike gender /sex-based get-together e.g. girls night out. Evenings are always more enjoyable in a mixed crowd in my experience. I expect the men enjoyed your company.

I can’t tell if they enjoyed having me there or not 😂 I’m quite an unsociable person but feel more comfortable around men then I do women

I think it's fine.

Two of them is a small enough number that if they had wanted to go off themselves it wouldn't have looked like they were deliberately excluding anyone to just make arrangements together.

It sounds like it is very much a standing arrangement and was an open invitation to the group, and this evening it just turns out that only three of you went.

Hope you had a nice time

That doesn’t seem weird, it’s nice they invite you, some men are weird about inviting a lone woman to join the chaps for a drink.

Absolutely not weird!

Its definitely not weird. My dh goes to the pub sometimes after football. The group who go are different every time depending on who has played, who has other plans etc. If you want to go for a drink with a specific person then you make arrangements to do so separately.

That’s reassuring, thanks. I would hate for them to get back in their car afterwards and say how pissed off they were that I tagged along and ruined it!

If they invited you but actually didn't want you to come along then that's really weird, and confusing to anybody, Aspergers or not! I reckon it's safe to assume they were genuine in their invitation, and that they like you. Hope you had fun!