To think feeling alone is one of the worst feelings?

[jonesy22]

It's not that I am physically alone. I have a large family, a partner and a child.

But I can't shake this feeling of complete loneliness. I feel like a prisoner in my own mind, dealing with thoughts and emotions on my own. I just want a shoulder to cry on and for somebody to be there for me, yet I feel like I have nobody despite all these people around me.

I feel I live a sad existence and that something needs to change soon, but I don't know what

I just want somebody to talk to.

Are none of the people in your life there for you?

@partysong they say they are but whenever I need somebody they're always busy

I get it OP. I'm surrounded by people who constantly seem to need me for something. Kids, DH, parents, friends etc. But when I'm having a hard time they don't know how to be there for me, or turn it around so that their problem is bigger. I've learnt to realise that I can be my own best friend. It's actually empowering to know that I am capable of handling my own issues without needing to rely on anyone else. It feels less lonely when you change the way you think about it.

@Aus84 I like that

I know how you feel. No advise but wanted to say your not alone in how you feel

@Aus84 you really summed up how I feel.

And thank you everyone who has replied to me

I really do sympathise OP, I feel very similar. I have children, DP, family, and friends who I fret and fuss over, but feel as though no one ever worries about me.

Haven’t had an adult cuddle in 3 months, and that was a work colleague

@Malibucyprus sending an adult hug

@jonesy22 thank you, sending one your way too.

With regards to not having someone to talk to, I’ve started a diary ( I feel 12 again ), I spend half hour every couple of days, making notes of my feelings. Then at the weekend I go back to the notes and try and offer the advice against them that a friend might.

I can’t say whether it works for me or not, as it’s a fairly new thing, but it’s worth a try.

Try to find someone in real life that you can say this to. Explain how desperate it males you feel at times. Sometimes it may be someone who you don't consider a close friend who will listen to you best.

I would think that’s what a partner is for if you don’t have one. Someone to occasionally take the load off and help you out mentally.

Why is this not the case with yours

If you do have one!! Not don’t

I'm the same, I just want someone to have a chat with sometimes. I've no friends. I speak to other mums at the school but it's just light chitchat. My DH is selfish and only concerned with himself, happy to lean on me when things go wrong but too busy whenever I've got a problem. His family aren't involved and I'm not close to my family. It's hard
Sending you an adult hug.

Loneliness is about quality rather than quantity.

So we can be surrounded by people, but if we don’t feel that there is anyone who really SEES us and cares for the real us, we will always feel like something is missing.

I think the majority of people feel like you, OP. Just some people are better at filling their lives with distractions.